is it cheating of he is already a cheater

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  1. Lover4You

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    I know he cheats on me so is it cheating on my part if I go the same route?
     
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    Absolutely....
     
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    well its a good thing I haven't but damn that sux
     
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    You are a better person than that though...because you asked. That simple act alone shows you really already knew the answer to your question...

    ;)
     
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    Let's get together and see if you feel like you cheated. Shit if he's doing it why shouldn't you?
     
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    More to the point why stay together?
    That would be entirely different if it was an open mutual thing.
     
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    Well hey, on that note since other people lie, cheat, rape, murder and steal and get away with it why shouldn't I?
     
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    I read a few of your posts....your guy doesnt seem to have any respect for you......what does he have that keeps you there? maybe its time for counseling? or a man that treats you with some respect? since u have kids, counseling would be in order.....
     
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    Not to sound cliche', but two wrongs do not make a right. No matter how bad the initial wrong was.

    If you know without a doubt that he is cheating on you, then you need to decide what YOU want to do about it.

    If he is cheating, there is a definative problem in your relationship. What you need to ask yourself is that if he is worth trying work through it, or is it in your best interest to just cut your losses and give him the boot.
     
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    BINGO on that !!
    As a comparison to a co-worker of mine she hooked up with this decent guy, they had lots of things in common, lots of attraction.
    The catch is while it looked great on paper the chemistry was a real disater and she was losing her self-esteem trying to please him and keep things going. Better alone than being this way.
     
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    I have sex with other women and I also have sex with my wife, who knows I have sex with other women. There are many aspects of our relationship which are precious, especially the romantic side. so the choice is to share or to lose that which is really good.

    All of the other women are married, and I know that many husbands know.

    Sexual fidelity is not the be-all and end-all. Relationships aren't as simple as 'if he's faithful it's good and if he's unfaithful it's bad. There is much more to life, love, romance, sex and a marriage than that.
     
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    just ask him if he thinks cheating is worth paying child support, and that may change his out look lol.
     
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    Talk to our hubby about opening up your relationship. If playing around is OK then it's not cheating
     
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    But I want him to fuck -me-
    Lol
     
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    You've got a real problem with this relationship and I can understand where you are coming from. I don't know what keeps you together, but should you be deprived when her clearly shows no respect? I don't think so! At some point if you cannot get out of this relationship.....or sort it......How long do you remain unsatisfied.

    I wouldn't condemn it. I don't think that is fair.
     
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    I'm afraid it is cheating, life's a bitch like that.

    2 wrongs don't make a right. Although in literacy and language a double negative makes a positive so you can always cling to that if you really want to.
     
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    If your husband is cheating on you and it's not ok with you,you need to sit down and talk about it.
     
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    hey lover4you, sad to say it is cheating, BUT like i always tell the wife. EAT'n Ain't Cheat'n.LOL....were always joking about it,but she has never said no to it. lol.. You got to eat right?
     
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    Haha yur funny :)
     
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    Done it multiple x. Don't make a change.