Is it best NOT to masturbate?

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    luv2flashgirls New Member

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    I'm sure that my viewpoint will be opposed on this thread, but here goes...

    I am trying to give up masturbation. Why? For a few reasons.

    The first (and biggest) reason is that it helps me to focus all of my sexual energy on my fiance, and not on my own self-pleasure. Having an orgasm is something that I want to experience only with her, and not by myself. It seems just...not normal to have an orgasm with myself. It's like having sex by myself.

    The second reason is that, when I don't masturbate, I notice that my erections are stronger and they last longer when it comes to having sex with my fiance. I almost feel as if I'd be cheating my fiance out of more pleasure if I masturbate when I'm not with her. She would enjoy a less-erect penis and I wouldn't last as long...not to mention my drive for her would be through the roof if I didn't masturbate, which would make her feel greatly desired.

    Does anyone else see what I'm saying? I honestly think that masturbation isn't the greatest thing for those of us who are in committed relationships.
     
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    May not be a bad idea. You sort of "save it up" for the real thing! Since I'm a bit older, many of my dates have lots more sexual energy than I have. A year or so ago I was dating this girl with whom I would bang away like a house-a-fire nearly every day! Once, we started out with this great love making session! I was rock hard, all was well, but after about 20 minutes of hitting it, I lost my hard-on! I hadn't come. I went and washed up. She still looked beautiful! But I was limp! After an hour or so, my hard-on came back, and the party began again.

    I have a theory that us men have a certain amount of "sexual energy" that does get consumed. And me in a similar situation as you describe, I did quit the whacking completely to save it for my girl.
     
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    I totally agree about the "sexual energy" that we expel when we ejaculate or have an orgasm. Why do you think professional boxers are told not to sleep with their wives for several days prior to their match? Why do you think Roman gladiators wore metal plates over their groins when they slept several days before events? It's because we men are weakened to a certain degree after we ejaculate. We give off our strength.

    I swear...back in the day when I used to masturbate up to 3 times per day, I used to feel tired and groggy all the time. I wondered why. Now when I go a day or two (or more) without ejaculating, I feel alive and charged. I bet when women see us charged like this, they want to have sex with us even more, so it's good to abstain for a while.
     
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    Also...

    Normally I masturbate so much that my scrotum is chronically red! Imagine that! But for the past few days I haven't masturbated and--guess what--it's turning the normal color again! I really think I jerk so much that I don't give the erectile muscles a chance to rest. Kind of like working out too much and not resting your muscles. They'd get inflammed after a while. I think I was working my erectile muscles way too hard!
     
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    I have sex four or so times a week, so I never masturbate. In fact, I can't remember when I last did... The real thing is so much nicer, and when you are in a relationship, real sex is usually available pretty regularly every week of the year.

    What's the best part of real sex? The kisses, the cuddling, the feeling of skin against skin, listening to her murmurs of pleasure, feeling sweaty body pressed against sweaty body (its warm here), cuddling up afterwards. All those things are the best part, and you don't get any of them on your own!
     
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    When we were younger I sometimes did but not often as we had sex almost daily. Now many years (22) into the marrige and after her having a hysterectomy it has really slowed down so I do it more than ever. She just doesnt enjoy it(sex) like she once did, I love her as much as ever and have tried various ways of stimulating her but she just doesnt get wet much anymore and even when we use lube it isnt the same. We have tried XXX movies, wine and I even tried to talk her into a 3-some with another guy to get her back but she went crazy when I made that suggestion so I dropped it right away. Now I visit this forum and read all the hot things that are revealed here and dream my dreams of the good ole days. I dont know what I would do if it werent for masturbation now.
    If I were you though I wouldnt waste my time jerkin it, let her have it all, I know I certainly would......................:bow All bow to the ladies for they are what we desire most;)
     
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    If I'm really horny during the day and I know that we have a good chance of having sex latter, I might be tempted to look at porn and wack off to relieve my hornyness. But usually I will refrain from masturbating so I will be more into the sex with my wife. And when I have jacked it several times in a few days I'm not as likely to initiate sex with her as I would be if I hadn't used the hand as often. Rose will sometimes say to me as she leaves for her job, "Now don't jack off today. Save it for me.":brow
     
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    Luvtoflash,
    I agree with you 100 percent. If, if and if.... I don't understand why you'd last longer without masturbation, as it's usually the other way, but the rest of it rings true for me. In my last marriage we had sex about every day, at least once, and I never masturbated then. My current wife doesn't like sex quite that often and never during her period, so I'll sometimes whack it when I figure sex with her is off the menu for a few days. It's different and kind of nice once in awhile.
     
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    I find that if I don't masturbate I can last forever, and once I cum I can remain hard. My wife and I once had anal sex for over and hour and I came in her ass three times without ever going soft.
     
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    I think I'm going to stop masturbating entirely. I want to be extra horny for my fiance. I love her so much that I want to give her 100%.
     
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    Has the literature from the Christian right finally got to you? Personally I do not believe there is a correlation between how firm your erection is and masturbation. I would believe other reasons for that phenomenon before believing it was due to masturbation. I do not believe giving up masturbation in any way improves your life and feel keeping the status quo is the best way to go.
     
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    In my own case I do have harder and longer lasting erections when I dont masturbate or dont have sex for a few days. I dont think anyone was suggesting giving it up for political or moral reasons. I have never met anyone who said they never have or never would masturbate, as sexual beings I dont think we can really help ourselves after a point. That point could be just time passed since last O or an especially hot date or moment for any guy. I have even had very hot sex with my wife and then lay in bed next to her and stroked my semi-hard slick with our juices dick and just enjoyed the sensations for a while without cumming. I think masturbation is a part of human sexuality that cant be denied.:eek:
    :bow All bow to the ladies for they are what we desire most......:brow
     
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    Similar situation to "busther". My wife had a hysterectomy too and while her desire didn't change for many years afterward, she has refused sex for almost the last 3 years. So I masturbate at least a couple of times per week. When we were having sex, it was usually only on the weekends so I would usually do it at least once during the week.
     
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    You said in the first two lines of your original topic,

    "I'm sure that my viewpoint will be opposed on this thread, but here goes...

    I am trying to give up masturbation. Why? For a few reasons."


    Well the responses so far I think support your viewpoint.

    I can personally say that there is No Way On Planet Earth that I would attempt to give up masturbation!

    I am happily married.

    Masturbation I think is a wonderful thing generally.

    Some folks might classify me as a bit of a wanker for saying this.

    Ok, may be. But a happy one at that. :)
     
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    Hey, that's cool. To each his own. I just found that it works better for me when I don't masturbate. I feel like I have more energy, more strength...plus I can concentrate all of my sexual energy onto my fiance. We are away from each other right now, so yes, I have been masturbating. But we'll be together in 3 days, so I'm holding off until then so that my horniness builds up and makes me rock her world. ;)
     
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    One thing that you said says it all:

    "To each his own"

    I've got respect for you buddy.
     
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