Is going to the topless bar considered cheating?

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  1. Yangus

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    My girlfriend doesn't like me going to strip clubs, and I can understand why. But right now she's in Florida, and I won't be seeing her for at least another month. So, if I were to go down to the local topless bar and get a lapdance, would that be considered cheating?

    Let me state that I would NEVER cheat on her. If Salma Hayek walked up to me and said "bend me over and fuck me like there's no tomorrow" I'd turn around, cry, and walk away.
     
  2. Dreama

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    I think that the term 'cheating' can be defined many different ways. It is most accurate when it is used in the context of an individual relationship. Have you and your girlfriend discussed it? If you think it's iffey, you'd better not do it, or she could have a different idea of what you did, and could interpret it as cheating. And if you were thinking of leaving out this detail, know that this is a very unhealthy thing to do in a relationship.....It's the very same as lying to her; it's dishonest and underhanded.
     
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    Cheating? Nope. Lying? Yes.
     
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    Yeah lying
     
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    Only if she asks and he says he didn't?
     
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    He knows she doesn't like him going to these clubs, so he is deceiving her, even if he doesn't outright lie.
     
  7. Animularisen

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    I don't think its cheating...
    As long as you don't end up going home with a girl or summit...
    I wouldn't keep it from her either...
    Coz she'll probs find out sooner or later.
     
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    "What the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve over."
     
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    Wow, Elvis, that was slicker than snot on a brass doorknob.
     
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    Omitting the truth is akin to lying. You can justify your actions all you want; it's still dishonest.
     
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    No guy has ever lied to me and not
    been found out....

    Women are very perceptive you know?
     
  12. Nettle

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    Some women say, if his lips are moving, he's lying lol.

    The thing is, he knows she doesn't like him going to these clubs, and he doesn't want to cheat on her so he obviously feels strongly for her. If she does ask him if he went, it's gonna be written all over his face.
     
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    Even if it's not "cheating" if I was your girlfriend, I would probably be hurt that you went to a strip club even though you knew I didn't feel comfortable with it.
     
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    and guess what my boyfriend just got asked to go to a lapdance club with his mates
    and he said no because i disliked it (even tho he didnt ask me if i did mind or not lol)
    and they he only wanted me lapdancing on him.
     
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    It's seems funny to me because I've been to more strip clubs than my husband-and only one of them had male strippers. Maybe you should go as a couple. :)
     
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    i wouldnt mind going ^^ me and my best friend (female) wanna go one. ^^
     
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    I wouldn't have a problem with my boyfriend going to a strip club but as your girlfriend does i think it will probably cause too many problems to be worth it. As other people said its the dishonesty that would bother me.
    I would say you either need to go but tell her or not go.
     
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    I used to be married to a guy who lied..uughhh...

    He hid some porno mags in the bathroom, under
    a sink vanity unit......one day I dropped my hair
    clip under there and found them....

    Haha...of all the places to drop something...i was
    so meant to find them...

    It wasnt the fact that he had the mags....just the
    fact that he lied to me....

    Such a coward he was.....and as if a woman like
    me was never gonna find him out....

    Needless to say he didnt last!!!!!


    :)
     
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    Anyone that has been to a strip club has been to one at least once more than i have.
    The oppertunities have been there , but just not realy my thing, witha female in tow sure ( as long as it was a mixed stripers club )or unless she was bisexual .
     
  20. tr0n

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    My wife and her friend (female) went to a female strip club last weekend. They did it on a spur of the moment thing..her friend is going through some troubles with her fiance (he called her fat when they were having an argument), so I guess she wanted to justify to herself that she wasn't. She isn't, btw..

    Anyway, my wife told me when she was coming home from her friends house that they went to a strip club, had one drink, then left. She was more amazed at watching the patrons than the strippers. She said the strippers were borderline ugly, some of them fat, and the men were hilarious. She said it was mostly a bunch of guys in their 40's playing pool and sitting around chatting. The ones most active at the titty bar itself were the old men that had to drag themselves in, or came in with walkers! They couldn't believe it! I couldn't believe they went, and was a little pissed off by it..more because of the skeevy men that go to those places. I shouldn't judge I guess..I've never been to one myself.

    Anyway, I thought it was funny when my wife's friend asked her if she was turned on or not. My wife's like, "No, why?" And her friend is like, "Really? I'm hot as hell right now!"