Is arousal voluntary or involuntary

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  1. whybother

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    This morning, I was lying in bed eyes closed thinking about my day. Wife walked into the room. Even though I paid no attention to her I realized that my cock started to swell and became fully erect. I wasn't even thinking about sex. I felt like a teenager.

    So my question is this.

    Do we control our sexual impulses or do they control us?
     
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    I agree both, but it is definitely involuntary for me a lot of the time. It happens when i'm bored mostly which means it happens in the van for work
     
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    Lol, I do
     
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    It is involuntary, but I'm not complaining.
     
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    There's definitely an involuntary part to it though I can voluntarily make it happen too ;-)
     
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    oh boy! I like the thought of that!
     
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    It's involuntary. Sometimes you really wish you were aroused and it doesn't happen. Sometimes you create a lot of stimuli to provoque it and it happens. But nobody can always be aroused when they want to, just because they want to.

    Ask people in relationships where one lost interest in sex.
     
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    I think both only when there is attraction. I would not be aroused if I was with someone I had no feelings for.
     
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    Involuntary when stimulated by attraction or a nice conversation. Self arousal is difficult . :)
     
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    I would have to agree that it can be both
     
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    Both for me too even at age 63.
    Just thinking about SO gets my juices working. Self arrousal works most times unless too affected by alcohol.
     
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    I would say both sometimes I just get hard for no reason and sometimes I can't get it up for the life of me. Part of that is age too. When I was younger though it was mostly involuntary.
     
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    I would say both .......... i get aroused whlie doing the dishes ........ the kitchen area has always been a turn on for me hehe
     
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    Damn it!!!! Where and I just did the dishes!!!! Sure could have used some help!:D
     
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    the kitchen table has seen some naughty times ! mmmmmmm
     
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    I think it's mainly involuntary! It just happens :)
     
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    I just wish it wouldn't happen at my desk at work.
     
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    Involuntarily, I get spontaneous erections when I think about sex, see a sexy woman, in the shower. It's embarrassing sometimes if it happens in public or I'm naked in a public shower. Then I want sex a lot and get a strong urge to have orgasm, climax and ejaculate, my groin engorges with blood and the urge to have sex is very strong. I fantasise a lot, I want sex a lot. I'm not in control of it.
     
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    Right on, at 63. This gives me hope for my future!