Intimacy Before Copulation?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by DDH, Jul 9, 2007.

  1. DDH

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    Well, let's see. Not to say anyone here is shallow or just enjoy sex to the extent of not caring about the partner afterwards, but let's be honest. How many prefer the one-night stands over the long-term relationships? Aren't there times when you simply want a nice earthquake of a romp without having the binds of having to take her/him out for a romantic evening later on? Perhaps not. Could you never imagine yourself in the same bed with a complete stranger? Heh, I don't know. That's why I posted the thread.
     
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    DDH
    You seem to be the shallow one.
    Good Sex starts with a Good Evening with a Good Woman.
    Not a cheap pickup.

    Hiker:sf
     
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    melicious The Old Maid
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    I've done the "straight to bed with a basic stranger". Now, I know names, and some information.... but not much sometimes. That's how swinging is supposed to work. ;)
     
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    ::clears throat:: Don't make me take out the whip, Hiker.
     
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    Hit him, hit him!

    No, I wouldn't want a one night stand ever again. When I was younger I did them a couple of times and I always felt terrible afterwards.
     
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    Well, hopefully, you are not a selective reader and misinterpreting my words. I have never done such a thing. All those questions are hypothetical. I simply wanted to know the various levels of sexuality people express in these forums.
     
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    I would not ever want a one night stand again, either. I've done it. Sometimes I've preferred it. Now, you can refer to the "what I want to be when I grow up" thread, if you like. LOL.

    (Hit you where, my dear?)
     
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    I would much rather do it with my girlfriend than some stranger on the street just because i just enjoy being with my girlfriend.

    n plus... i know my girlfriend is clean... how do ya know that girl you had the one night stand with didnt catch somethin from last nights one night stand?
     
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    Thinking back now, I don't honestly remember having GOOD sex in any 1 night stand.
     
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    Relationship sex and casual sex require different approaches. I've done both, and they have both got their strengths and weaknesses. My most memorable sexual encounters have been in bed with basic strangers. Beyond good sex, beyond great sex... I have some average one-night (or day) stands which have been pretty good too.

    I think it takes the right person to get the most out of casual sex with a stranger. It doesn't seem to work with everyone, but it does work with at least a few of us.
     
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    For me great sex comes from learning my partners likes and dislikes and him mine. I couldn't get that from a one-night stand. It just doesn't interest me at all.
     
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    I've had my share of one-night-stands, one-weekend-stands, etc., mostly over a two year period of my life when I was depressed and looking for something more. But no, it wasn't because I preferred them over a long-term, loving relationship. It was more because I was looking for something meaningful and picked up the crumbs along the way. I regret my actions during those years and don't think I'd fall into that trap again.
     
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    Mel said
    I don't know why, But I think she wanted you to hit Me with that whip.
    Don't know why though as I have a 9" whip and I whip back.

    Hiker
     
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    Oh, I love 9' whips.
     
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    And just where do you want it used Mel.

    Hiker
     
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    Everywhere!!!