[Ask a Guy] Initiating Sex or Just Wanting to Cuddle?

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  1. Barbwire

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    I sometimes wonder if I'm slightly retarded when it comes to interpreting my husband's body language. Take last night for instance, we were in bed and I was laying on my side facing away from him. He came up from behind me and hugged me tightly. There was no mistaking that he had a boner but he didn't do anything else other than cuddle up with me.

    I didn't do anything to cock block him, but I didn't do anything to make an advance on him either. I waited for him to do something but he didn't, he just fell asleep. I was left to wonder if I'd disappointed him somehow or if he just wanted to snuggle not screw.

    So, guys, if you stuff your boner up against your old lady's back, are you just wanting to cuddle or do you want some action?
     
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    If I did that, I'd want some action.
     
  3. Barbwire

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    I forgot to mention in my first post that hubby had moved snow for hours that day and had complained about being exhausted and sore.

    In bed that night all I got from him was a quick poke and then snoring.

    I need more than a hardon pushed into the small of my back to make me flip over and beg to have it stuffed into me. I've learned not to take all boners at face value because I know how unpredictable (unpredicktable?) peckers can be and last night I thought maybe it was one of those spontaneous boners. A false alarm of sorts. Guys in their 40's still get those, right?

     
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    To be honest it could be Both.... it can be as simple as just a hug without wanting more... or it could be the beginnings of more..... Sometimes its nice to be able to cuddle in bed without your partner feeling like you just want sex.
     
  5. Dreama

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    I definitely think it could go either way. Leave it to him to initiate if he wants it, because that'll save you the trouble of trying to read his mind. My hubby gets boners all the time for no apparent reason, so it could be something like that, I think.
     
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    I suppose I should have added that if I did want some action, in addition to snuggling against her back, I'd likely also reach around and grab some tit:D
     
  7. Barbwire

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    Thanks for the replies, I guess I'm not as clueless as I thought.

    Oh, and "grab some tit"? If my old man did that, I'd slap him. No woman wants to be grabbed. Come to think of it, a lot of dudes seem to think that getting grabbed by the butt is a big turn on for a woman. Silly, really.
     
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    I don't mind having my tit grabbed. I actually like it. However, being grabbed by the ass isn't such a turnon. I don't mind it, but it does nothing for me.
     
  9. Barbwire

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    I talked to my husband about the other night and he said it was one of those cases where his dick was acting of its own accord and he was actually too tired for sex.

    Dicks are funny little critters, that's for sure.
     
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    Figure of speech, my dear. Not really grab but gently locate and caress :D
     
  11. Barbwire

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    There ya go, that's better. Makes you sound more genteel. ;)
     
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    I do that all the time. I am willing if she wants to flip over and start something. Otherwise we'll just go to sleep and she'll end up with a sticky spot on her butt.
     
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    Sounds like a blowjob would have been really nice and relaxing.
     
  14. Barbwire

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    Yeah, you are right, too bad he didn't ask. ;)

    I made it up to him last night though. As he lay in bed reading, I stopped on my way to the bathroom and said to him, “Wash your dick I want to suck it.”

    He jumped out of bed like he’d been bitten in the ass by a bee and sprinted in front of me, peeling his underwear off as he went. He then hopped into the shower. I brushed my teeth and turned around to see his nakedness through the steamy shower door.

    I told him to back his ass up to the glass for me to see and he did, then I told him to bend over and spread his cheeks. He did. Then I told him to un-spread his cheeks a little because he was showing too much brown, he adjusted his buns and put them back on the glass. We both laughed and I told him to hurry up and finish showering. I laughed again when I saw two perfectly round butt prints on the steamy glass.

    He was out of the shower in a flash and back in bed waiting for me as I put my pajamas on and thought about what how I’d make love to him. I decided to not do anything fancy that involved toys and just do it old school with my mouth and hands.

    He was lying on the bed when I pounced upon him, trapping him between my thighs. I grabbed his wrists and pulled them forcefully over his head. I bent forward and kissed him hard. I savagely used my tongue in his mouth, probing it, and pinning his tongue down.

    I humped my pussy into him and felt his cock grow through the sheer fabric of my pajamas. I kissed my way down his face to his neck then latched on with such force, he told me to stop so I didn’t give him a hickey. We joked that it would not do to have one of the partners show up at the firm with a big ol’ love bite on his neck.

    So, I toned it down a little and just kept kissing and licking my way down to his nipples, then, I asked if it was OK for him to show up with nipple hickeys and he said yeah, grinning, I sucked and pinched them, hearing him making little contented noises.

    I then worked my way down his belly, asking every so often if it would be proper for a hot shot partner to show up in the board room with a hickey where I happened to be kissing him.

    As I got close to his cock, he raised his hips up and it jut out, jumping for attention. I blew right by it and down to his knees just to tease him a little, then worked my way back to it.

    After using the flat of my tongue to wet down his entire cock and balls, I started sucking his cock in earnest. I took it all the way down in long, slow swallows, and then mixed it up by just popping the head in and out of my mouth. I bobbed, I gurgled, I slobbered, I sucked him like a porn star until I felt him about to blow. I then grabbed the base of his cock and squeezed saying in a voice husky with desire, “Not yet.”

    I held his cock like that until the throbbing stopped and he calmed down a little, then I resumed devouring him until I felt him ready to blow again. I immediately pinched his cock again, to keep him from shooting and waited for him to calm down. I wanted him to explode, but on my terms, not his.

    I said to him, “I want to know when you are ready to cum because I want to see it on your belly.” He said he would, and I took a deep breath and downed his cock once again. After being made to wait so long, it took mere seconds for him to push my head back, letting me know he was close. I barely got three strokes in with my hand when he shuddered and then shot rope after rope of cum onto his belly.

    I wiped him off with a towel, gave him a few more passionate kisses and told him how impressed I was with his load. Laughingly, he agreed that it was indeed a whopper.

    After that we had CPAP sex, but that is a whole ‘nother story and thread.


     
  15. heelfetish

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    Lovely story, CL. I'd love to be treated that way. My wife, however, just isn't as aggressive in bed.

    But what is CPAP sex?
     
  16. igor

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    I can't wait to see what the CPAP story is. My wife uses one - I can't imagine sexual activity when using one. Maybe this is a new unique kink huh? :brow
     
  17. Dragon_Fire

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    I'm dying of curiosity too.
     
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    I thought it said CRAP sex until I read further on. CPAP... Cunt Pumping and Ass Penetration.
     
  19. Barbwire

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    More like Clit Probing And Poking :lol

    Seriously, CPAP stands for Continuous Positive Airway Pressure. I have sleep apnea so use a CPAP machine at night. When I have more time, I'll write up my tale but right now, I'm getting ready for an appointment with the doctor that prescribed the treatment.

    Hmm, wonder if I should tell her the story before I post it here just to see her reaction.

    Would make an interesting post script to the tale, that's for sure.
    :dgrin
     
  20. heelfetish

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    DO IT!!!!!!! :lol