I'm a very passive person, and there have been times in my relationship where I have been suspicious about my girlfriend cheating on me, but when I asked she assured me that she wasn't. The reasons she gave me turned out to be lies, and now a new situation is causing me to have doubts. Without a direct confrontational question (that only leads to lies and excuses) how can I get her to truly admit whether or not she is cheating on me? I love her so much and I want to stay with her. she could have lied for a number or reasons...so I have the benefit of the doubt. Again, I don't even know that she cheated yet but I just know she lied. how can I passively get her to tell me the truth? I am an extremely jealous and insecure person, and I feel like its causing problems and hurting the people I love the most. I haven't had a serious enough relationship for infidelity to be an issue, so I've never been put in this situation before. What measures can I take to combat these distracting feelings?