I finally met someone who i'm really comfortable and compatible with and I want to give myself to her and have her feel good about it. However, I'm a virgin and very inexperienced. There is also an issue with her past... she is a rape victim (her virginity ) and so i'm not sure what that will do to her sex life psychologically. I have been supporting her and being the best man I can be to her... The way we feel about each other is a first for the both of us.. and she feels okay about having me. But I wanted to be prepared and had a few questions. 1. What's the difference between all the condoms? Does 'her pleasure' really make a difference? 2. If I trim myself.. where do I put it away? 3. I try to be the best lover I can and pay attention to signals. She says i'm good with foreplay and it's the first time she's gotten wet from just making out. Is that common or should I hold some confidence? 4. I hear on average most women do not cum during intercourse. Given her circumstances I feel it may be even harder to reach that. But I really want to please her. Should I be worried? I don't mind going down beforehand if that helps. But i'm not sure how. 5. Sometimes when i'm just kissing her I get really hard. But the other day I was with her and she was topless but for some reason I didn't feel anything. I've always imagined that would be a very exciting situation but I couldn't get an erection or maintain what I had. Yet, I didn't feel nervous. Again, is that common? should I be worried? Could it be guilt from knowledge of her past? Or just performance anxiety? 6. I know where her errogenous zones are but im not sure how to stimulate them. When she tickles a part on my back it makes me shiver. When I do the same to her zones it just makes her flinch a little. Is there a technique to this valuable touch? 7. I'm afraid I wont last during our first time. It takes me about 15 - 35 minutes to cum during masturbation with maybe one or two stop/go's. Could someone just clear this up for me... is the sensation THAT much better than masturbation? As in.. should I be intimidated? 8. Last question... if she were with someone for a year. Would that make her loose? She has not been sexually active for several months now. I'm about 5.0 - 5.6 inches depending on arousal. Didn't measure width but its a little wider than my middle and index finger together. I'm wondering if that would suffice? I'm asian/quarter mixed and it seems we get alot of negative attention in that area. I think the questions are fairly simple. I just write alot since that's my trade. I know it's alot but if anyone could give me some feedback I would GREATLY appreciate it. Thanks..!!