incest fantasies

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  1. kadog

    kadog New Member

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    Are these normal? I am looking for honest responses and feedback. I have had these for a long time and am getting serious in a relationship and have felt bad about this. I dont have any feelings for any of my family in this way but do have many fantasies about the topic. I feel really guilty about this and it is affecting my relationship. Can anyone give me feedback on this?
     
  2. Logger

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    Normal vs. Problems

    You ask the question if improper sexual fantasies are normal. A definition of normal could be complex and cover a range of disputed concepts.

    What is more pertinent, is how to handle improper sexual fantasies. When I was a single teenager and college age kid, I would sometimes get a boner in the middele of the day. I would have crazy thoughts. If I masturbated to pornography in the morning, when waking up, I did not expereince these problems.

    I suggest that the improper sexual fantasy might be an indication that you are not handling your sexual satiation sufficiently. Different men have different timing and needs. For me, mine was every morning.

    Some people and experts would argue that masturbation is not normal. Some people and preachers believe that pornography is harmful and habituating, if not addictive. Some women you ask out will be turned off if they find out you masturbate. Some will think it's cool.

    If a particular incest situation is the only sexual fantassy that you have had, and you don't think sexual fantassies are a probelm for you in general, then perhaps my suggestion of responsible satiation of your sex drive is not the answer. What other options do you have to satiate your sex drive? Is warming up a grapefruit in the microwave, cutting a hole, and pushing the grapefruit up and down really masturbating? Is a blow-up doll masturbating? get heavily involved in some sport activity.

    People in general, and women perhaps to a greater extent, like to tease and flirt. Perhaps the person you have in mind, has you in mind, to some extent or another. My suggestion would be to take respnsibility to see that nothing happens, and the relationship stays as it should be. If you are uncomfortable now, perhaps you can imagine how uncomfortable things could be if something really did progress too far. Things would probably be real awkward. Then if people start finding out about it, you could lose some otherwise good friends, or lovers, etc. The family structure is based upon platonic love. Incest can rearrange the family structure, leaving the offenders with a reduced level of family support.

    This is a thread on a cousin:
    http://sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=688
     
  3. kadog

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    Thanks for the input. The thing is that my fantasies dont involve anyone I know, mostly faceless people but the situations are very real. I often utilize these to stimulate me during intercourse and I have a hard time being turned on any other way. I dont want to share these with others as incest is such a taboo topic. I was hoping to hear from others that also share these thoughts and thought that might help me realize its not that unusual and I may gete the couraage to share it with my partner. I think role playing with her might also make me more comfortable and bring it out in the open. Has anyone ever role played incestual themes?
     
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    Intercourse Fantasies and Visions

    I personally ave a wide range of visions duirng intercourse. Often I wil view a woman who I have seen in the last few days. After visioning a woman during intercourse with my partner, I find that any lust toward that woman, during the next period of time of dyas and weeks, is substantailly reduced. I feel that my fantacizing about women I meet during intercourse with my wife, I am creating the satiation I need ot be a trustworhty faithful partner. I pretend, during intercourse, that my partner is the lady I saw in the elevator yesterday, or whoever.

    Different women have diferent levels of understanding and ideas that raise feelings of jealousy. I can't tell you what will make your current partner jealous. I can say, that I have shared your hesitation to bring up the issue of my visions during intercourse. I cannot remember ever having brought up a vison to my wife, as I try to be considerate to her feelings of jealousy. I have a vague recollection of explaining my visions to a wonderful young lady who graced my bedroom for many months before I was married. I believe her reaction was not one of understanding, but rather intense jealousy. I have kept my mouth shut ever since. Visioning creates satiation, which keeps me trustworthy. My wife is variable on her jeaoulsy of erotic videos in the bedroom, but I feel they increase satiation, and my trustworthiness.

    Blessings
     
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    In answer to your question. I have these alot as I am 33 and in a new relationship myself. My GF is amazing and her and I can talk about anything. Have you tried talking to your girlfirend and being hones? As I have had these all my life I have always figured it is because my girlfriend was not making me happy sexualy. Is that the problem with you? No I am with a woman that I can see a future with and once I had the courage to tell her, she was vey understanding. In fact it took any doubt away that I may have for this girl. She was in tears becasue she felt like I was not attractedt to her, and that she could not make me happy. But if you are going to dump something like this on your sweetheart you better be able to support the emotional ourbrreak. I think that for us, it helped creat a bond and we are closer now.
    Fondy K-
    Let me know how things go.
     
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    personally, i think the fantasies are fine as long as you dont act upon them. if it starts affecting your relationship, then i think you should try to focus on somthing else your partner is comfortable with
     
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