In or out?

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by redhotlobster, Oct 18, 2012.

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Sex in or out of a relationship?

  1. Yes, relationship only.

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  2. Both.

    22 vote(s)
    62.9%
  1. How many of you have casual sex or save it for relationships?

    I'm commited relationships only as sex is EXTREMELY linked to emotion for me. I can't screw someone I don't care for. And we have to be together for awhile/care for each other mutually a lot.

    What about y'll?
     
  2. Gearhead

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    before my relationship i had a person who id have casual sex with just because neither of us were in a state of mind for a relationship, i think it comes down to different strokes for different folks
     
  3. I know it's per person, just curious on how everyone feels and why.
     
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    i have no issue with it, hell i love it because its not meaningless sex i care about the person to give them my all and make sure she cums first
     
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    I'm a relationship kind of guy, but I can understand how sometimes one just may need to connect sexually.
     
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    I prefer relationships...but that in no way precludes having sex outside of a relationship...:)
     
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    Both. I haven't had a relationship work out in a LONG time (several years) and had some horrible experiences, so my "playmate" is critical for some release and general funtime. We are not interested in a relationship, and we don't really feel 'that way' about eachother. Just fun and sex, no strings attached.
     
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    I voted both, but I still need to know the person pretty well, and would need to feel really at ease/comfortable around them, and even then sex would be very awkward initially. Never really been one for "sport fucking" personally.
     
  9. sandwich

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    I'm into relationships.
     
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    Guess I'm gonna be backwards of everyone lol.

    I prefer straight up casual sex. Relationships just get in the way of my fun, which is probably selfish, but oh well.
     
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    I enjoy the mental part of sex to much....the things that lead up to it....the scenarios that you can set up.....I've never had a fuck buddy, but none of the one nite stands I've had have ever been close to what I have sexually in my relationship.
     
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    There's nothing wrong with that as long as you aren't stringin' people along. If you're up front about just being DTF, then it's all good.
     
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    I also voted both.

    Since I've been with Mr. RN, that is the only man I've been with however before I met him there was a time when I would have casual sex (safely of course).
     
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    I started out with casual relationships, but then eventually I only have sex if I'm in a relationship. Sex is definitely much better with someone that you love.
     
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    I reserve my penis for relationships.
     
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    Prefer a committed relationship.
     
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    Only been in one commited relationship...30 yrs now, but before that, it was nothing but casual. I have no problem with either. Had several FWB, several one nighters, and other various casual situations.
     
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    Casual sex is the best for me. But relationship may also be ok, so I vote both :)
     
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    Only ever been with one woman , my current GF , we dated for 3...4...? months before we actually met , had sex the same night. I prefer a relationship for sure.
     
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