Before I really start, let me preface this by saying that not everything in this post will be logical. I'm asking for advice from my heart and not my head and I'm a woman who tends to be a bit jealous and sensative when it comes to her husband. Ok, here goes...I'm on my second marriage and the first one ended up being basically sexless. Now, during the 3 years that I was separated from him, I was very open and free sexually and did lots of experimenting and acting out my fantasies. It was wonderful and I truly loved letting that part of me out. I always said during that time that when I decided to get married again, I wanted it to be with someone who was open minded and who would experiment WITH me. Well, I found that man and we've been married almost 2 years now. We have done SOME kinky stuff together, but just the two of us. I've always told him that I felt like I would be open to us being with other people at some point. I know he's ready for us to have a 3-some with another girl and we're going to a swinger's party this Saturday. It'll be our first one together and I'm very scared and nervous. Although I've done things like this before with ex-boyfriends, I was never really in love with them. Logically, I know he loves me and he can separate the physical from the emotional and just have a sexual experience with someone else, as can I, but I just don't know how I'm going to handle it. He has even said that if I ended up with another man, he could live with it as long as he couldn't see or hear anything and we used a condom...you know, whatever basic bounderies he feels is necessary. I don't think I'm ready to just let him go off with someone else, but I don't know. I guess I would just like to know what you all think about this situation and if anyone has had any experience with this.