So I have a pretty shitty situation on my hands. I've been single for over a year now, well I'm not now. I had been. Now I'm dating this girl that I really like. We connect on every level... except sex. Its an odd feeling for me. I love sex. I'm very into it. I tend to lean a bit more towards aggressive, slightly rough sex. She isn't extremely experienced, but she's been with enough guys and knows what she's doing. For whatever reason though, I can't bring myself to take control (not in a bad way, just like initiating and driving during sex). It really bothers me, cuz I REALLY like this girl. It's not that I'm not turned on by her either. I think she's very attractive, I love kissing her. The attraction is there. I just respect this girl so much that I don't take control. I feel like anything remotely rough or aggressive is disrespectful to her. I've never felt like that about anyone. I've had plenty of really fun, rough, aggressive, exhilarating sex. I dunno if the fact that I haven't had sex with a condom in a long time, so its desensitizing me a bit, or if its the fact that I don't want her to be uncomfortable or something else entirely. Its not even that I'm not horny. I still watch porn every day, and there's another girl that I've sort of been after for a year or so, and she and I have been hanging out, and I still get horny and want to bang her (I never have actually). I don't get it. Anyone have any ideas or able to offer any advice?