I feel i am at a crossroads with my s/o. My s/o's mother is an alcoholic - 24/7. I look into the future and anticipate severe problems in our relationship when i think about how her problems will become our own. Her husband (my s/o's father) cudnt care LESS about her condition and i suspect would LOVE for her to die a lot earlier in life because he does nothing to help her - much to the contrary. Works 3 hrs away and only comes home on weekends. what kind of a man leaves a woman in her state to look after his children is beyond me. (shes already almost set fire to the house because of being out of it with food on the stove) MORE THAN ONCE. My s/o locks up the wine cellar door to keep his mother out of it - his father comes home for the weekend and cant have a meal without his wine. So what does he do? Break down the cellar door so he can have his wine, doesnt FIX THE DOOR AND THE LOCK, leaves for work and leaves the door unlocked for the week so his wife can drown herself in whatever issues shes having. I find his fathers actions dispicable and i can barley look at him. I've tried helping her by finding out about aa meetings in her native landuage and everything, she refuses help...and even rudly told me to stay out of it because it wasnt any of my business. I dont want to have to take care of her later in life -if NOW it isnt my business, then later it still shudnt be. Im thinking these issues could ruin a marriage...Should i just leave now?