in an open relationship

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  1. dirtydawg17

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    Hi I'm curious, I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman. Our relationship is one that allows sex with others as long as its safe no kissing and we are together to join in or watch. I'm bisexual she is straight. Do you think we are greedy or selfish individuals because of our sexual freedoms that we allow???
     
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    Why would it matter what others think? What you do in your relationship is of no concern for anyone else.

    My husband and I are polyamorous. Neither of us care how others view us as long as we're happy and anyone else were with is happy.
     
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    I think you're both filthy degenerates. :p;)

    (Note:
    JOKING!!!)
     
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    It's all good as long as you are both happy and don't hurt anyone else. Just have good communication and honesty. Have fun!.....and take pics and share them with us :)
     
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    Exactly!
     
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    Well said..
     
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    Being that I'm in an open relationship as well, I don't believe you are selfish at all.
     
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    Live the life that suits you; so long as nobody gets hurt what is the problem?
     
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    I don't think it's healthy for either one of you. I saw a few couples like that. They all broke up eventually.
    Good luck!
     
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    Just because others didn't work doesn't mean that the op or the rest of us will. For a lot of people it works out perfectly well.

    Can you please explain to me what you find unhealthy about this? Do you have a legitimate reason or is it just the preconceived notion that a relationship should only be two people? I'm interested to hear what you have to say.
     
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    First of all you are right. It doesn't mean it can't work. But that's what I have seen so far.
    I think the main reason it is not healthy Is because it creates tension in the relation ship. Jealousy when one of the partners is having sex with a better looking/better equipped partner (outside the relationship).
    Other possibility is a strong connection with someone else that might occur and will end the relationship.
    Make things short, a lot of things can happen if you give them the opening..
     
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    Most people don't go into an open relationship without talking it to death first and having complete trust in one another.
     
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    All of what you said is a risk for any relationship. If you have anything or nothing at all you can still develope feelings for someone else that causes your relationship to fail.

    I think it's safe to say that you could biased or jaded on this topic. That's not to say that your opinion is invalid, just that you seem to have a very specific experience or opinion on this.

    I can not tell you how many marriages and commited relationships fail for the same sexual and emotional reasons you have listed for condeming an open relationship.

    Most people go into open relationships with a ton of prior discussion. It's not just something to dive head first into without something to help you float.
     
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    Its not for me but I dont judge,If your happy and it feels good..Do it! xo
     
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