In an abusive relationship

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  1. doggiestylegirluk

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    What impact can that have on both the receiver and the aggressor life and will it tarnish for life?
     
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    ... yes have been there and got the tshirt

    impact can be devastating and life changing, I was very lucky as I meet my current boyfriend who helped me.

    my advise would be if your in one is to talk to someone as soon as possible - good luck
     
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    The message was put by mr DSG for clarity not the lady x
     
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    Some time words are meaningless and it's right to turn to song and lyrics

    What have I got to do to make you love me
    What have I got to do to make you care
    What do I do when lightning strikes me
    And I wake to find that you're not there

    Mr DSG
     
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    My sister was in one. Luckily now though she is married to a great guy.

    Sometimes for mind/brain washing reasons , and fear , people can find it difficult to walk away from abusive relationships everyone knows it happens time and time again. So yes it may not be simple.

    But my simple message is.. If you're a guy who has been an abuser/is an abuser. Be a man for a change walk away get help. And of course women do abuse guys too , my message here is to the guy walk away let her be on her own.
     
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    I was bullied by my ex in a very subtle slow burn way and eventually kicked against it, with emotional repercussions that I wouldn't wish on anyone. Ultimately I found the strength to quit, with a lot of help from my now partner. I still struggle with certain things more than 18 months into a very positive relationship. I hate to think what state I'd have ended up in if things had gone above and beyond what I encountered.

    Our emotional wounds change who we are and how we react to others. They're not something that can be undone in a hurry, if ever, but all we can do is attempt to draw strength from what we learn in the process.
     
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