Hello, First post here, but I wanted to go somewhere where someone might be able to give me some real advice. Essentially what it boils down to is that most of my life I have been single, with a few relationships mixed in here and there. So, for most of my life I have been satisfying myself. Over the years I got to the point where I can do this very quickly. I appear to have made myself "over sensitive" because of it though. Now, when I am with someone, I really start to feel myself getting there after a matter of 30-40 seconds and have to stop. With the last girl, we got to the point where we introduced toys. One that I wear that stimulates her at the same time. So, basically I am just inside, not doing a whole lot but trying to hold back and not get close myself, while a toy does all the work and when she got close we tried to cum together. However, even though she was understanding and we found a way to make it better for her, I still felt bad that pretty much, no matter what, I could never last a long time and every excursion was quick once we got to that point. This has seriously, over the years, killed my sexual self esteem to the point where I have very little to no libido any more and now that I am single again, I don't even want to think about a relationship with anyone as I don't want to deal with my issues and hope that she is accepting. Is there any type of help out there for a guy like me? Anything that can make me less sensitive so that I can have normal sexual encounters and not finish before the race has even really began (to use a bad metaphor)? I currently have someone interested in me, and has been flirting with me pretty hard core, but I keep making excuses why I can't go out and do things because I dread having to make excuses why I don't want to have sex, or if I do have sex feel bad that I'm inadequate. Any help appreciated, willing to try just about anything at this point.