I'm gonna come...

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  1. SWGirl

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    I recently had a very interesting conversation with 3 friends. 2 who are a MF couple and 1 who is a gay male. We were discussing the act of coming on someone's face. As "facials" are incredibly prominant in porn these days, I found it to be a very relevant topic. My female friend thinks that it is a HUGE sign of disrespect and that it's one of the worst things you can do to your partner. Her partner disagreed and just said that it was a fetish just like anything else, and that some people really like it. He went on to say that he'd always wanted to try it, but knew how his lady felt about it so he never even considered asking; (which she was kind of taken back by). My gay friend says that it's something a few of the people he's slept with wanted to do, but that it didn't bother him to give it or receive one. It was just another way to orgasm.

    I was kind of impressed that we had 3 people and that they were 1 against it, 1 for it, and 1 on the fence.

    So I'm wondering what the consensus is here on both sides of it. Do you like to do it or receive it? No? Why? Is it just another demeaning act against women that's popularized by pornography?

    I'm curious what people think.
     
  2. igor

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    I don't see what anyone gets out of that. I would never do it to my partner unless she wanted it, otherwise it would be demeaning.
     
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    I love it. But not from all men. I love it from the man I love. Its a feeling of 'total freedom to do and get everything'! Wonder where that puts me? On the fence, sometimes?? :)
     
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    to me i dont really care where i unload . i dont have any preference. but ive done it to a female i tht it was courteous for me to ask permission . all she said was not in the eyes or hair. she prefers to have me unload in her mouth rather than her face or creampie
     
  5. Sexwork

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    I love spunking in a guys face after fucking him...but I would not recommend to do it after anal sex unless the person wears a condom (which I always do).

    Its just so hot to see someone's cute face all creamed up LOL. I dont get the guys who like to come inside. Delay gratification, take it out..Its always a bit fun cause you never know if its going to end up where you want it to go, or if its going to wind up in their eye or hair LOL
     
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    I guess you would say i am on the fence too. My husband likes to do it. I much prefer on my lower back or on my front, boobs or stomach or both if he shoots haha
     
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    I'm very on the fence about it. I generally find it incredibly disgusting and just a major turn off as having it on me instantly makes me squint and mentally go 'omg ew ew ew ew ew ew ew' and blindly search for the nearest towel, shirt, panties, hell dirty sock, to get the shit off of me. lol

    However, there are times where I badly want him to cum all over me, or times where I'm doing things for him and I'll allow him to cum on my face for a photo or something which he loves.
     
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    Your friend might have thought it's a sign of disrespect because some men say clearly that they want to do it to "degrade" or "dominate" a woman. That message is definitely out there.

    I have definite preferences about this. If the boyfriend squirts up onto my face, I kind of like it. If he squirts down on my face, I don't like it. Also, I squirt sometimes too, and if I squirt up onto his face when he's giving me oral, I think it's kind of fun (though I was horrified the first time until he reassured me). But I wouldn't want to squirt down onto his face by standing over him or something.

    So I think I'm picking up on that degradation or domination thing. From above is a position of power, and I think I'm aware of that when I'm making these choices about how to do it.
     
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    I get a better orgasm if I finish in her mouth rather than on her stomach. (I don't want to cum on her face then go back to kissing her). However, if I cum on her stomach (pull out method) then its not as satisfying but I usually stay hard and can go right back to what I was doing.
     
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    Meee, perhaps I misunderstood you, but you seemed to align degradation and domination as synonymous.
    I'm not so sure that's a fair association. Domination is not necessarily degradation.

    Context is everything with facials, anal sex, bondage or any sex act for that matter. With love, mutual agreement and respect an act that appears to be demeaning can be an act of passionate eroticism. Of course the converse can happen as well. And in those circumstances its unfortunate when the act is labeled disgusting or demeaning. After all it isn't the act that's wrong, its one person not ensuring positive context for it that causes the problem.

    To answer the original question, I like cum on my face now and then. It's an expression of submission that turns me on.
    that being said, no woman should be pressured into it, and not all men have to like it. To each their own.
     
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    And to add...I dont mind having a guy spunk on my face either, but for some reason I dont like it as much as I used to. I prefer to swallow, but the ONLY time I can swallow is if I have not already came. For some reason, I get a bit disgusted by cum right after I do.
     
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    For me it's a never yet for the reason that I feel it shows disrespect for my partner however if she asked then maybe....but I would need convincing otherwise happy to deposit anywhere else.
    Guess that leave me as sitting on the fence then.
     
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    I do not think it is degrading at all. Anything CAN be degrading depending on the meaining behind it but if the partners agree, then it is just out of love and pleasure. I've never tried it, my girlfriend is against it. But I would love for her to change her mind one day.
     
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    I've not done facials, but there have been times when I've come all over a girl's tits or something like that. We weren't into imitating porn stars or anything like that, we were just having a very hot time together and all the dirty talk and her telling me to come all over her did the trick.

    Welcome back naughtyknickers, it's been a long time too.
     
  15. SteveWaste

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    Okay, I don't know who you are "Naughty Knickers"... but I can tell you one thing. You and I will be friends. That is exactly my stance on it. We do all kinds of things in the bedroom (and out) that several people would superficially label as demeaning. And that clearly doesn't mean that it is. This is what sex is all about: losing yourself in the fun of experimenting, role playing, positioning, attitudes, sensations, and feelings.

    The word "demeaning" or the synonymous term "derogatory" is an element of intent. You have to WANT to demean someone and someone has to be the victim for something to be derogatory. My lady and I are equals in right and respect. We are also very different when it comes to roles, preferences, and attitude. This makes it impossible for anyone to be a "victim" of something derogatory.

    If she wants me to come on her face (and she often does), I will. I think it's very sexy. You know what I think is more sexy? The fact that she WANTS me to come anywhere. That she has a preference turns me on. And though I am a very dominant persona by nature, when she is pleasing me orally or manually, she's in charge. And this is when 95% of these instances have happened; when SHE chooses where I come because she's the one pointing the gun. VERY hard to be a victim of something derogatory if you're the one in charge.

    The element of intent is the single greatest factor. If you intend to demean someone, you can. If you love the person and have mutual respect for one another, you can bend her over the front of a police car, handcuff her, and spank her ass with a collapsible baton without anyone feeling demeaned or put down. That's the magic of love, and the mystery of sex.

    ~Steve
     
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    @NK
    And I'm not sure how much you know about your signature quote, but...

    "Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish it's source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds. It dies of weariness, of witherings, and of tarnishings."

    *I love Anais Nin

    ~Steve
     
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    Cumming on a woman's face never occurred to me until I saw it in porn. I never had the urge to do it, and I expect my wife hasn't ever thought of it either. I really feel most satisfied when I cum balls deep in her pussy, and she has said as much too. She likes it full and creamy. That is other than blowjobs, when I always cum in her mouth. She likes to suck hard on the head when I cum, and frankly, that feels so good to me I almost faint. Sometimes she gets plenty on her face, but not because I aimed it there.
     
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    could not have said it better myself, steve.
     
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    I just realized that I never weighed in on this. :)

    I love it when my man comes no matter what. It means I've done my job pleasing him. He likes it, and I like it, the best when he comes in my mouth. It is so arousing for me and it feels the best for him. I also like it when he comes on my face. Laying down, sitting, kneeling, 69, upside down; it doesn't really make any difference to me or feel any differently. I just like to feel and experience his orgasm WITH him as much as I can; and feeling his hot semen in spurts on my cheeks and lips just does it for me. I guess I do feel kind of dirty when I do it but I think that's another reason why I think it's sexy. I can be dirty with him and it's incredible.

    Steve and I have talked about this a lot. I like him to mistreat me a little sometimes in the bedroom. Spank me, be rough with me, etc... doing things that in any other context would be terrible to do to any woman. But he also makes me feel more appreciated, loved, adored, and respected that I have ever felt in my life. It's kind of a hilarious paradox:

    "I've never felt like a man has loved, appreciated, or respected me more than you do. You make me feel so safe and protected, and I value our relationship so much. I love you wonderful man. Now I want you to slap my ass, rip my hair back, and come all over my mouth!"

    And I personally think THAT's what passionate sex is all about. It can be making love to someone no matter how raunchy you get because the undertones of love and trust are always there. You couldn't do it right if they weren't.
     
  20. Meee

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    I've heard and read some men saying degradation, and other men saying domination. I used both words to cover it. I get the impression, however, that there's some overlap between the two words.