Vlad and I are having issues lately in the sexual department. Just to brief everyone here is a bit of history. We have been together for almost 11 years and lived together for 6 of them. Our sex drive was on the same level before but lately it's gotten slower. I realize thats normal however how it's being handled isn't. We recently got married and our honeymoon was great, we did it every day. When we got back Vlad went into the same habits he's been having for past 2 years. He comes home and goes for the computer (he is a computer programmer and still wants to spend extra time on the computer RIGHT after work). I attempt to cook us some diner and invite him to help me (I don't get help) and eat with me (we eat in silence no matter what my attempts are, i will tell him about my day in detail but when I ask him about his day it's just "fine" or "ok"). Then he starts watching TV in the living room. Here is where my problem continues, he doesn't help with dishes and just falls asleep on the couch, we have gone several weeks like this, I sleep alone in our bed. I DON'T think it's normal for a couple around the age of 27 to not sleep together, let alone have sex every once in a while. I also have no problem going solo, however from time to time I need my husbands attention. I've brought this up to him several times and he always apologizes but does not become pro-active about his promises. We barely have an emotional or intellectual connection. What really pisses me off is when he wants to get it on I am supposed to turn on like a light. I'm looking for good advice here, I've talked to him about all this calmly and rationally. I don't think he'll change and that scares me a bit. I think I've done more then enough coming up with ways to spice up our sex life or otherwise with fun activities. Like I said I really need some advice!! Please help.