undefinedI recentyl found out that my husband had an 'affair' in a chatroom with a woman from Australia. We have been having serious problems for at least 15 years of our 19 year (3.5 years living together before that) marriage due to his drug usage, his inclination towards cross-dressing and most recently drinking. He's told me that all these addictions he has were due to our lack of a relationship. I say it's more like he is bi-polar. Anyway, he felt during the holidays that as far as he was concerned we were through and he intended on divorcing after the holdiays. Chance meeting in chatroom turned into relationship-supposedly no cyber sex-but jeez, they even had a song! For some reason, things have been phenominal since. I think I became so angry and determined to never be hurt again that I became the sexual aggressor, even pierced by clitoral hood, thought we were on a turnaround, that we were going to make it. Found out today, that he is still talking to her in the chatroom, to the point of defending and supporting her when she was attacked by nasty people in chatroom. Sorry, this is so long, it's a friggin soap opera. He says they are just friends, that he can talk to her about anything, that he has been discussing our relationship with her. She is going through a divorce, her hub cheated on her,(hey, why not, latch onto mine!) I'm so confused at this point. How am I supposed to have any trust in him? If they are just 'friends', why hide the fact? I feel right now, that as much as I love my kids, I just don't want to play this game anymore. Can a male and female be just friends?