I'm 18 and a virgin craving sexual pleasure from someone else.

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  1. Obsidian

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    I'm so tired of masturbating for my self all the time. I need a girl who can help me or do it with me.

    Like I said, I'm 18 and a virgin. I'm very nervous about things, like her opinions on things and if I will please her. But first, there is no her. I feel like I've been waiting to long to find that special someone. All I hear is that she will find me with time. I'm tired of waiting.

    I'm also afraid on how to engage in this sexual intercourse with someone.

    Please help with advise.
    Thanks
     
  2. Dreama

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    How active are you in going out to meet others? If you sit in your room all day, you rightly cannot wonder why you don't meet people. I wouldn't worry about it so much-18 is very young. You have plenty of time to find a women to have relationships with.
     
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    "I'm also afraid on how to engage in this sexual intercourse with someone."

    I'm sure you've seen XXX rated videos. For the most part, you should discount the majority of them, as most aren't very realistic as to the way sex *should* be enjoyed. Instead, purchase a "how to" video or set of videos from Sinclair Institute. They're actually educational and would teach you all you'd need to know about the subject.
     
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    Well the first thing you need to do is go out. dont go looking for it because you will give off a aura of desperation, and thats only going to make it harder. All you have to do is go out, and try to enjoy yourself, meet more and more girls because that way u have have more chances to act on, eventually there the time will come and you wont be so nervous.
     
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    I don't know if it legal in your country/state but if it is then I suggest you procure yourself an older professional woman, tell her you are a virgin and ask her to show/teach you how it is done.
    Afterwards ask her opinion on the average size of willies. The answer may surprise you.
    Anyway the above worked for me 36 years ago and I never regretted the way my berry was taken.
    However, wear a condom and ask her to put it on for you if you are not sure/accustomed on doing it yourself.
    Dude, remember everyone has to start somewhere, we are not born with ready experience.
    Apologies in advance to some out there who might consider my proposal immoral but better a clean satisfactory first experience free of doubt and stress than a botched attempt resulting in damaged self esteem.
     
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    Obsidian, I would'nt worry about it. My "first" time with a girl was when I missed the spot and pumped between her ass cheeks and the bed.Dohh, no wonder she was looking at me funny, i thought she was in the throws of ecstasy! Things did get better though when I finally hit the spot later that night!
     
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    It would help if you let us know exactly how you've gone about trying to meet girls. There is a song, "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places", and as corny as that sounds, it makes a good point.

    I always found that meeting prospective mates in places that I was not truly comfortable in made me act out of character, kind of stiff and unwelcoming. In those situations I never had any men seem interested in me. In places where I felt more in my element, where I was relaxed and confident, men were drawn to me.
     
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    Ditto for Bushwalker and Mephisto! I really didn't have any sexual relationships (or any relationships, for that matter) 'til I was 21. And even then the help of an experienced person would have come in handy (pun not intended)! Like Dreama said, You have plenty of time to get naughty, but meanwhile build up some confidence, go to gym or something (they're great for self confidence, if you get the right trainer), read up on some of the greatest lovers of all times etc. All prospective sexual partner appreciate a self-confident erudite (but fun) person, eh?

    Meanwhile you also have the time to explore around your own likes and dislikes, what turns you on and what doesn't. And forget porn. No, really, forget porn! You're too young to have it spoil your idea what sex is supposed to be like. Espescially the porn nowadays. Maybe not the porn of olden times (i.e. Deep Throat, but that's for artistic values only :) )