[Ask a Girl] If your man cheated..

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  1. Adida

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    Would you break up or tolerate it??
    My opinion is to slide it..
     
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    I think it would depend on the affair and other relationship issues.

    Someone I'm dating, he'd be gone.
     
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    The quest. Was about one time slip, not an on going affair, once you are married and committed to each other.
     
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    oh boy I gotta write down these good tips!!
     
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    This is a survey quest. Not an advise asking...
     
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    I don't think I could answer until I was in the situation.
     
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    Curious why you're only asking women?
     
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    Is there monogamy? Is there a "till death do us part"? I´m not sure about that... So I think its one of the risks when you´re in a relationship. What I would do? I cant really tell...
     
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    Men can join in too... But I found that they are actually less forgiving than women.
    But that would be interesting too!!
     
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    Ok, well , my now ex wife had an affair w a co worker for six months before I found out. I left . We were apart for about 3 months, while I decided if I wanted to save our relationship. ( she did).. We had been together 17 yrs at the time.. We worked through it. And later had two children. I stayed another 10 yrs w her before finally having to leave. Then I left ( for many of the same reasons that caused the affair). Looking back, I am proud of my decision to work thru the affair. I believed in the commitment to my marriage . But, ultimately, the affair should have been the sign that this marriage wasnt meant to be. And looking back , staying and working thru, was a mistake.

    So have I really answered any questions here? No. Because every single situation is very very different. We just have to look inside ourselves , and try to make the right choice.
     
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    I have given my life to my man and I expect him to give me his!.....Im a big believer that there is something missing in a relationship if either one has a affair or a 1 night stand..Never no reason to have a affair when they have safe sex sites like this..JMO xo
     
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    Is your husband a member here also?
     
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    No he isnt..Why do you ask? xo
     
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    No reason,, just curious ..it sounded like he was from that post , but I couldn't remember hearing you talk about him here.. Just being nosy..:D
     
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    dumped. no ifs, no buts. its a a great excuse to go find another dick lol.
     
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    There are more than two choices. I wouldn't break up and I wouldn't tolerate it.
     
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    Why the cheating? What is he looking for? You and your guy having issues? other factors?
    This is not a black and white issue in my opinion.
    Although there are times it's very clear and a split is best.
     
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    Uhmmm.. My husband is not cheating. It's a quest. Brought up by female friends and we had a little discussion over it. So I'm curious hearing more about it. Since I was a minority in my opinion...
     
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    Oh I commented only as in discussion, understood.
    I almost did years ago, I was very unhappy at home with many issues that were brought in that should not have existed.
    It makes the grass look greener for sure until one chooses to look closely at grass in more detail to keep things real.

    I believe an open talk is needed if a partner cheats ........ WHY?
    Money, sex, regret picking the wrong partner, dynamics, a game, ego or self esteem, neglect getting in a relationship too soon / when not ready to commit, if able to commit.
     
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