[Ask a Guy] If your girl quit sex on you, would you break up?

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  1. Golden

    Golden New Member

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    I just want to know out of curiosity. Put yourself in that situation that your girl quit having sex with you. what would you do?

    (this topic can be answered bye girls as well, what you do if your boyfriend quit sex on you?)
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    wawoo New Member

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    I will vote for McCain. See, I don't need your pussy here, I can screw the whole world.

  3. Joe

    Joe Gold Member

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    It would depend on the reason and how important the relationship was.

    I left my first wife after several years without sex, but I'd asked her to give me a reason. She couldn't. I asked her to see a doctor or therapist. She wouldn't. I finally gave up and left after more than a dozen years. I wouldn't wait that long again.

    If it was a new relationship, I wouldn't wait a month without good reason.
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    Yup. (Unless it was obviously something I had done wrong and needed to correct.)

    I once dated a girl who wanted to wait until she got married. I respected that. We made out a lot, but we only dated for about 2 months though. I dated one other girl where we ended up waiting almost 3 months before we banged it out...(turns out she was waiting on me and I was waiting on her...what can I say, I was young). Although I have to admit she was worth the wait (one of the two best lays I've ever had), I wouldn't wait that long again. Life is too friggin' short.

    BD
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    If my gf quit sex on me, which mean she wants a break up.
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    I wouldn't break up with my boyfriend if he wanted to quit sex for a while or completely. Our relationship is not based on sex so that wouldn't be a problem to me.
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    Yup!

    If she were just withholding sex for some reason then I would work to solve whatever the problem was, but just "I don't really want to have sex anymore."??? Gone!
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    If there was no good reason, I wouldn't leave him but I would take in a lover, if he wasn't happy with that then he could leave me.
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    So, if your BF said "I just don't enjoy sex and I never want to have sex again", you would just say "OK, sweetheart, we'll have a sexless relationship"? Sorry, I don't buy that. Unless you're a virgin now (which I don't believe you are), then I think you'd become quite frustrated and either dump him or do someone else. Think about it and reply. If not, it's only because you are so young and don't realize some things about life yet.

    BD
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    Exactly...well said. Also, if a long-term or lifelong partner had some health problem or some other illness that made sex un-doable, then that's a different story altogether. I'd experiment and try to find some way to give them that joy. So, I guess it's hard to give a hard "yes" or "no" to some questions...a lot of it really depends on the circumstances.

    BD
  11. ninja08hippie

    ninja08hippie Official SF Hugger Gold Member

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    Well, in that case you are in a relationship. Part of a relationship is the physical part. It may seem shallow, but yes, you can't have a relationship without a physical relationship too.
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    Sex is the icing on the cake of a relationship and boy do I have a sweet tooth! If I really loved her them then I would try to wear her down with being respectful and loving but there would come a time when I would leave. Maybe six months..
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    Of course Id try to find out why first, but if its just because,Id make sure the door didnt hit me on the ass on my way out!!
    Contrary to some posters beliefs, IMO,sex is very important in a solid relationship.
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    It's obvious that most of you are fairly young and virile, but when you get "older" you might have a different answer. Just ask me and also Igor about it. We both went long spells with our spouses without sex. It was 12-14 years for me. I NEVER lost my desire for sex, but my husband came down with ED and completely stopped sexual relations - out of despair and shame. He convinced himself that I couldn't possibly want to be intimate with him because he couldn't get it up. I loved him and I knew he loved me, so I lived with it. The dam broke this summer and now with the help of Viagra (which he was too ashamed to request, so I asked for him) once in a while, we can have actual penetration, but sexual intercourse is only a small part of our (more or less daily) sexual relationship. We now do mostly oral and use toys and we are both very happy at the turn of events. If you really love someone and they love you back you deal with their problems.

    For all the time we had no sex at all, I thought he had lost all interest, then he told me he masturbated almost daily. Boy was I surprised and happy to hear about that.
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    Exactly.
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    The question on the post stated if your girl QUIT sex on you...that to me sounds like a self thought out idea and not a physical ailment....If my wife came down with a physical problem that diminished or stopped our sex life, of course I wouldnt leave her, Im in love with her , and yes Im sure we would come up with a solution to the matter........but self thought out quitting sex is a totally different matter...and a selfish one at that.
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    I applaud you Trixi for persevering!! :bow
    And your strong values and committment.
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    Well I can truthly tell you NO,I am a married man and basicly my wife has quit giving me sex.I haven't had sex in almost 5 months now.The reason that I would breakup with her is because I truely love this woman.I have even had the chance to get sex from 2 other women who has been trying to get me to have sex with them,but I won't.That's how much I love this woman.So like I said NO.
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    True that quit is different from can't. But the reasons for the quitting might not be evident at first. In young women hormones, or lack thereof, sometimes cause a complete lack of sexual desire. I know, I remember. :) After years of taking birth control pills in my 20s I stopped taking them and found out I actually did still like sex. Sex felt like a chore to me while taking those pills. Kids can also kill your sex drive. Many things can.

    If the young woman DID enjoy sex and then stopped, but obviously loves her man, then the reason she quit sex is most likely hormonal or being overwhelmed with kids or something like that. Before giving up on a relationship with someone you love, the couple really do need to talk about these things. Then again, if she quits and turns cool toward her guy, well, then I guess it's time to hit the road. BUT, sometimes a woman will quit sex because the guy she's been having it with is, well - could be a number of things - he hasn't washed, he's an inconsiderate lout, he never lends a hand, he goes out every night with the "boys." Yep, lots of things to consider. :)
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    for many of the reasons stated above, yes, and i think anyone who answered no to this question is fooling themselves.
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