"If you have nothing good to say, just shut up!" What do you think of this piece of advice? Do you agree with it? I totally agree it's a good one. However, by only saying good things and shutting up otherwise, we're contributing to create the illusion that we can please everybody and that we/they are perfect. Moreover, we're creating the illusion that perfection is expected, is wanted, is the only possible aim. Think of it, if expressing the fact you don't like something (when asked) is a taboo, it means the only possible issue is to please everyone, all of the time. Because even mentioning that something doesn't please everyone, every time, is a taboo! The moment you encounter an opinion that disagrees with something you have/have done/are, you crush and feel offended, because you were made to believe you were perfect, every part of you and everything you did. Perfection would be the only acceptable way! I think we should be able to say something like "I don't like it" and that not being perceived as mean. Of course, that can't be said in a hurtful way. But if I'm asked "do you like this?", I'd like to be able to give an answer, without automatically hurting someone, I mean, just by having an opinion, or a particular taste. I think people get easily hurt, perhaps because they grew up in an environment where nobody was honest when honesty meant saying something wasn't to his/her taste. I'll take myself as an example. I have a big arse. It isn't to everybody's taste. If I ever ask "do you like big butts?" and the person answers "no, I don't", I'm not going to take it as an insult. I've asked the question, I'm happy somebody answered. I won't be hurt, nor offended. I'd be offended by a comment like "no, I hate it and I think all people with big arses should burn in hell". I'd find it offensive, even if I didn't have a big arse myself, just because what is being said is clearly an attempt to hurt people. What I'm trying to say is that overprotecting is counterproductive, it is harmful. We can't please everyone, all the time, we can't be always right... and that is OK. What is your opinion?