If you could start over again...would you still get married?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Marcpatrick, Oct 2, 2011.

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If you could revisit the past would you still marry your partner?

  1. Of course! We are soulmates. Our love was written in the stars.

    8 vote(s)
    32.0%
  2. Yes, of course. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

    6 vote(s)
    24.0%
  3. Yeah, sure, 'cos no-one else would have me.

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    0.0%
  4. I would perhaps have experimented more before committing.

    8 vote(s)
    32.0%
  5. No, we have had so many difficulties, I still wonder if it has all been worth it.

    2 vote(s)
    8.0%
  6. I rue the day we ever met and would welcome divorce or even death.

    1 vote(s)
    4.0%
  1. Marcpatrick

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    As the title states would you still get married if you could do it all over again?
     
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    Funny how extremes work. When I was with my first wife, I ended up having to chose between divorce and suicide, but with my current wife of 37 years, I can't imagine life without her. Ah, the choices we make :eyes
     
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    I just realised I botched this poll by not adding a 'n/a' option for people who aren't married.
     
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    None of those options apply to me. I think if I could go back to before I married my ex husband (we're technically still married but separated) I would have looked into it with a different point of view. Shit hit the fan after we exchanged vows and there were also warning signs before we did as well but I was in "We're getting married.. finally going to be a family" la la land.. even though we were already.. I was young and naive
     
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    Or n/a Option for people who don't like any of the options in general. I'd get married again but I do not feel that my husband is my soul mate. The end all be all. Nor can I say that I can't imagine myself with anyone else.

    I married my husband because I love him deeply and he makes me happier then anyone in this life ever has. That's very had to come by.

    We also have an extreme kink relationship where there is sex with other people.

    So technically I can/do see myself and himself with other people. Sexually, not particularly emotionally though.
     
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    My answer doesn't fall into any of the polls answers, but did want to contribute an answer.

    I wouldn't change my marriage with my ex, that time in my life is part of who I am today and I wouldn't have my children or my grand daughter.

    I do believe I wish to share the rest of my life with T (RideNaked) however we are not married and there are NO plans to be.
     
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    I wouldn't change being with my ex-husband either we have some beautiful children together and memories that will last a life time. Just the "getting married " part I would change. It was unnecessary and I owe him apologies for asking for us to go down that road.
     
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    Absolutely would do it again, We are awesome together, Just wish my first marriage had never happened and that me and my wife could have met sooner...:)
     
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    I can't regret my marriage, we have 5 fab children but I too was facing divorce or suicide during the first half of this year....something had to give and I knew I wanted more than anything to see my children off into the world.

    Divorce it is. But I can't vote, I don't rue the day we met.
     
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    i cant say i regret getting married, my wife and I are now separated but had three great children together, it all turned sour and i had an affair, but to be honest I should have had the guts to end it sooner than I did. I have a new partner now and i am very much in love with her, a stronger love than i have ever felt before and if we were free to marry i would marry her tomorrow, so i suppose the answer to your question is in the first instance, no.
     
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    why would anyone divorce?
     
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    Paula better question; why get married in the first place?
     
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    That would be a good option for the poll
     
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    To correct a stupid mistake, and be free to be with or marry someone who really cares. We all make stupid mistakes, especially when we're young and have little experience. When we "wise up," we can either live a life of misery or cut our losses and try again.
     
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    I voted yes. I had some wild, crazy teen years up until we started dating, so I already had 99% of my "fantasy checklist" taken care of, and I needed, for my health and personal sanity, to settle down and have someone who was excited to see me come home, not eager for me to leave in the morning.
     
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    Absolutely as long as it was with my wife:)