:nerv So im sad. I joined this forum to find help for my relationship and have yet to ask my questions. I guess this finally made me ask: Over the year my bf and i have been kinda fighting over the fact of our sex like being horrible. Well i think it sucks we have sex like 1once a month.... Ive asked him the many questions: Am i unattractive to you? (ive gained weight since the three years we have been together like 30ish pounds) Is there something wrong with you? physically? Hes a 21 year old guy that was never sexually abused he didnt so much as walk in on his parents having sex either. there is nothing that could be wrong with him that could have been from a tramatic experience. His mom was always open to him about sex and they used to talk alot. she was alway there for him and made sure he had his information. He used to smoke pot and i know that gets your sex drive down alot but hes stoped now When i ask him why he doesnt want sex its...Im tired, its to early/late, someones here, or hes busy doing something else. He doesnt seem interested at all. He says maybe hes bored with sex tired of the whole in and out thing weve watched porn together. played with a vibrator and so on. I know hes not gay hes went through that stuff before when he was younger and didnt like it at all. I feel hes not being completely honest with me when it comes to being attracted to me. I feel overweight or too dirty for him. I cant even feel like i can seduce him to do anything. I feel like he expects me to be some little virgin princess that is all ahh im only doing this for you and i dont enjoy it. He says i get mad if i dont have an orgasm and i told him i dont get mad i get sad. He called me imature for feeling that way. I believe he stresses to give me an orgasm and thats why he doesnt like sex that much either. Hes just so damn sensitive. It stresses me more knowing i have no sex life with the guy i love and want to marry soon. I think am i really suppose to be with him and know for a damn fact that its suppose to be forever but my sex life is just dead. I mean what 21 year old doesnt want to have sex with his girlfriend. Most guys are drunk and having sex LOL! Sure i had my problems before i didnt shower then much i was pretty much annoyed with showering daily...i do it every other day and he finds that unclean but i blame that on mikky ds where i work.(smelling like mikky ds never stops) I plan on quiting there soooooooooon but i need another job. Yeah i can get upset with not having an orgasm but its not like he cant keep going ...hes the kinda of guy that can be a real sex machine if he put his mind to it...meaning he can have it up after even having his own orgasm I just dont know what to do. we just got in a huge fight this morning over it i was stressed went to the bath room and started crying then i left with my dog to go swinging at the park I havent done that in a long as time haha! I have to admit that he has been on concerta for Adhd and maybe that could affect him but its not like we can afford to get him back on that medication hes probably going to have to go back on it when he gets in the coastguard. but hes not that bad with add stuff you wouldnt think he has it at all. but he thinks clearly with him kinda he actually cleans! haha but would that affect his sex drive? i wouldnt know...concerta makes him sick though and he doesnt eat Im sooo sad and depressed here i am this girl looking for her boyfriend to have sex but he wont i feel like im some fat girl ands so dirty and flithy for wanting sex IM SOO STRESSED and you know masterbating doesnt releive this Im tempted to get on the shot to bring my labido down haha!