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Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by Barbwire, Feb 27, 2009.

  1. Barbwire

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    I often see men post on here that they fantasize about their SO's having sex with other men. Some of them have gone as far as encouraging them to seek out other men to fuck, preferably ones with larger cocks than their own.

    The thing is, I don't ever recall a woman coming on here and posting a similar fantasy. Why is that? Are there no women that get excited thinking about their men fucking other women? I wonder. ???
     
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    Interesting question, CL. I can only speak for myself but for me it's a definite no. I find nothing appealing or arousing about my SO fucking another woman. The idea of him being with a man is somewhat arousing, for some strange reason. I'm also pretty sure he doesn't like the idea of me being with another man, but would probably find it a turn on if I were with another woman.
     
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    Ya ladies, what's up with that? I guess men are just a little kinkier (or stranger if you prefer).

    I am actually of those men but I don't have a real desire to have sex with other women. I would most definitely be up for it if she said that it would turn her on but I don't have a desire to do it for myself.
     
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    What if it's women fantasizing about their men fucking another man? Has that ever occurred?
     
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    I too am curious about the common fantasy of the wife having sex with another man, especially with a well-hung man. I don't have any desire for this at all, and perhaps that's because I would be the well-hung man in such a fantasy. Large penis by proxy, perhaps? Penis size has been a male obsession for a very, very, very long time, and it's not going away in the short term. Perhaps it's worse now, because we all have ready access to so many images and videos of well-hung men with beautiful women.

    I am going to stick with the large penis by proxy theory, and the husband's desire to fully satisfy the woman he loves, albeit by giving her sexual satisfaction through someone else's penis. And as a well-hung man who doesn't mind being well-hung, this theory makes sense to me.
     
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    no way...hes my man!!!!...nobody can fuck him but me D=< ....but sometimes i wonder if i could split myself in two and please him....if wouldn't matter cause it'd be me =D
     
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    I am of average size and have never been worried about the size of my penis. I have asked my wife several times if she is happy with my size and she assures me that she is. When we see a commercial on TV about male enhancement I sometimes joke about sending away for it and she keeps telling me I don't need to. One thing I have learned from this forum is that my size is just about right for what fits inside a women.

    I wouldn't have a problem with my wife having sex with another man with a large penis because I know she didn't marry me for my penis and I have no trouble satisfying her. If she enjoyed that larger cock it would be ok and I would encourage her to enjoy it again if she wanted. For me it would be such a thrill to see her enjoying another cock regardless of the size. I would love to watch her fuck and especially suck it. If only I could get her to do it for me.
     
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    I've never understood this fantasy and likely never will. The way I see it is, if your wife does agree to this, then theres a good chance she's not being satisfied or else she would be sleeping with another man.

    Women don't like to share their men with another woman. As silly as it sounds, I was dating a chick some years ago and we had planned to have a threesome. She backed out and I later found out it was because the other chick in her mind was better looking. Self Confidence has a lot to do with it.
     
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    I disagree when you say there's a chance she is not satisfied if she agrees to it. It could be that she is doing it because she wants to turn her SO on and please him if that is something that he is into. Like I said, my wife is not into seeing me with another woman and I don't care to be but if it was something that turned her on I would be more than happy to do it. It doesn't mean that I am not satisfied with her. I think it can add something if that's what both people are into.

    I do agree with you though that women can be more fearful that their SO may think the other women is prettier or has bigger tits. I think in general, women are more critical of their own bodies than men are or theirs.

    It wouldn't bother me if the other guy had a bigger dick then me. I think it would be nice to have my wife experience someone bigger. I am confident in my ability to please her and secure in the love we share. I just wish I could get my wife to agree to it. I would love for her to take two of us on. I know that she would feel good and I know that she could handle two men at once.
     
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    This posting and the previous one convince me more than ever that this fantasy is all about 'giving' a wife a special treat, which is sex with a man with a larger penis. The fact that there is no lack of sexual confidence here is a key ingredient, because if there was a lack of sexual confidence then there wouldn't be any desire for a wife to experience this treat. Instead, there would most likely be fear or jealousy.

    One thing that most men don't realise is that most women measure penis size in girth, not length, and length generally means nothing at all. Indeed, too much length can be painful with little gain. But if a woman gets turned on by size it's when she can't wrap her fingers around a penis, or if she struggles to get it into her mouth.

    The point of this? If you really want your wife to experience someone bigger, ask his mid-shaft girth measurement: it should be about 6" or greater, although bigger than 6" is quite rare.
     
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    Yes I'm sure there are women out there that would do this simply to please their man, but we're speaking in general. Women in general don't sleep with another man because they have a larger dick while in a happy, satisfying relationship.

    The reason why I don't understand this fantasy is because I'll hear a guy say, " I know she's satisfied, but I want to see a man with a larger dick satisfy her". Women know what they need to satisfy them and men believe they know.

    IMO, because I'm not a woman, a women who agree's to fuck another man, just to please her SO is in it for more then just pleasing her SO. A satisfied women wouldn't agree to it. ;) There minds and body's don't work that way...
     
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    My fantasy doesn't include a man with a larger dick but I'm sure there are guys that wish to see that. My wife constantly tells me (and I believe her) that she wouldn't want one any bigger. Could that be because she has never experienced a very large cock? It could be but I doubt it. I have watched pornos where guys could only get half of it in. That's kind of a waste in my mind.

    There is nothing wrong IMO with a woman doing it to please herself if her SO is into it. The line would be crossed if she was doing without her husbands knowledge and consent. I do believe that a satisfied woman would agree to it but I agree with you that they would be in the minority. I realize that women are wired way differently than men. After all, it could lead to even better sex with her SO which would satisfy her even more.

    I have never understood why I have this fantasy about having my wife have sex with someone else. From very early on in relationships I have had this urge. I kind of felt guilty an weird about it when I was younger but I have stopped trying to wonder why and just accept that it's something I like. I have also learned that it's a very common thing among men. This forum has help teach me that it's OK to have different sexual urges and needs as long as they don't harm anyone.

    Of all the years of having this fantasy I had never put a face to the man. I never had a person in mind that I wanted her to have sex with. One night however we were sitting at a bar and I asked her to look around and pick out a guy that would be here type if she wasn't with me. Then I said I would pick one out to see if we matched. I mentioned that the bartender may be her type. She took a good look at him and agreed that he was the kind of guy that she could go for. Since then I have wondered from time to time what it would be like for her to be with him. Usually though the man remains faceless. There is a guy now that he is friends with that sometimes I would like her to and sometimes not so much. At times I do insert him into the fantasy.
     
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    It is said that men are more visual than women. Maybe it's like we just want to visualize from a distance, our woman having great sex while we watch. I don't think it does much for a woman seeing her man fucking someone else.
     
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    Personally, I think it would be pretty hot to see my hubby with another woman--as long as we agreed on it beforehand of course. It would be really hot because I'd get to see how he looks from the outside of the encounter. Sexcellent.
     
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    There's always the good old video camera - make your own porn flick :D
     
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    That is a great idea. We have a camera that does video. Making a movie would be a really fun thing to make and watch.
     
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    The advantages of taping yourselves is that you will then have exactly the kind of porn you want:D
     
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    My wife would never agree to taping (I've asked many times) but I don't know if I'd want to see myself anyway. I know I make some weird faces and sounds during sex and I'm afraid that if I see myself and think I look stupid it will effect what I do in the future during sex.
     
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    Would would like for my lwife to be pleasured by another man. I think it is because a man gets off and he is done, me, and a woman, my wife, can keep on going and going. I like the idea of her getting more pleasure.
     
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    I wouldent want to see my wife with another man. But Id like her to bring one of her friends with to our bed....