I want sex all the time, GF does not!

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  1. MMAaddict

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    How is everyone,

    My name is Philip and I'm a new member. I've been reading a lot of posts on here lately and its seems to me that a lot of guys are experiencing the same problem. I want to have more sex with my GF. She is beautiful and every time we have sex, it's amazing. But the problem is she doesn't want it enough. Don't get me wrong, I'm pretty good in bed. I take my time with soft touches, kisses, and massages before intercourse. I don't think the problem is me. I think her sexual appetite is low. She can go two weeks without sex no problem. On the other hand, 2 days for me my hands will start to shake and I want to fuck everything in site. Ladies and gents, how can I change this? We are both young, fit and Asians. Also, I don't think my penis is small so thats not the problem.
     
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    How long have you are your GF been together?
     
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    About 2.5 yrs. We have dated before when we were 19 for a few months then broke up for 7 years. When we were 19, we were doing it rabbits.
     
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    I dont know what to say. Maybe she has a lower sex drive than you do. I have been there, done that, been with someone with a lower drive than me. When I was not getting sex from him it is all I can think about, he could only it once or twice a week. I could have it at least once a day. It made me a really bitter and jealous person when I saw others were getting sex more than I was having hot dinners!

    Maybe you and her have to sit down and have a serious chat, maybe she has some underlying issues? Like stress at work, money worries etc.
     
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    I did try to take to her and basically she thought that I was a pervert for wanting too much sex. I was hoping there might be some type of Viagra for women to get her horn up. Sex once a day, what a dream. We are having it probably 3x a week, but thats bc I have to initiate. If I dont initiate, I would never get laid.
     
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    You are not a pervert at all! You are a red blooded male, she is probably disgusted at the thought that you have a very high sex drive.

    I feel really bad for you. If I was depriving my bf, I would have to evaluate what is wrong and address it. This is probably the reason why alot of people see attention elsewhere.
     
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    I honestly don't understand why 3 times a weeks isn't enough for you. I started reading your post thinking that you two were having sex much less than that but then you say that you're having sex 3 times a week. That's a lot more than a lot of people get. You should be content with that and to masturbate the other times. It seems like your girlfriend also thinks that 3 times a week is enough. For some people 3 times a week is a lot. You two really should sit down and talk about this sex issue if you still do not think it's enough and she thinks it's too much. If you don't talk about it you both might start having issues with each other because of it.
     
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    I'm actually fine with 3x a week. But my point is that, it seems as if I'm forcing her instead of her willingly doing it. I want us to be on the same page. Its 3x time a week now then later it will be once a week then 1 once a month then who knows. I'm just trying to prevent it from happening.
     
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    Then you need to have a serious talk with her about your feelings. Tell her that you think you're forcing her.
     
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    aww ive got the same problem with my man dude. :(
     
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    How could anyone not want to have sex with you? I'll chop off my right arm just to touch that booty...haha
     
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    If I may become scientific, males are hard wired to spread their sperm as often as possible, thus we are horny pretty much all the time, but women are cyclic - remember the menstrual period? We men should consider ourselves lucky that our women's cycle is only monthly and not annually like some other mammals. Strictly from a cyclic standpoint, a woman would be expected to be "receptive" only during those times when she is most fertile (ovulation).

    Case and point - it's not realistic to expect a woman to be as horny as often as men are. Give her as much pleasure as you can when she is receptive, even at the expense of your own if necessary, and avoid insisting on it more often if she doesn't want to. Try learning new ways to make her pleasure last longer with more foreplay, teasing, and slowing things down even more. You might even try leaving her short of having an orgasm once, without letting her cum, just to see what happens. Maybe she will want sex again sooner. Men can only try to make it better for women to have them want it more often, but forcing them is not a good idea.

    A possible compromise would be for her to give you quickies more often just to keep you satisfied. In any case, talk to her about this and respect her point of view. IMhO, this is how successful relationships are built.
     
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    Those are some very good advice. I'll play it cool and make her think that I want sex. I'll use reverse psychology and show her that I don't need sex. The only problem is that, if i go too long without having sex. When we do have sex i can't take advantage of the situation and pleasure her as much as possible bc I'll be too horny and cum too fast.
     
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    After you cum, the pressure should be off of you, and it's then that you can relax and really concentrate on giving her pleasure. Or is it possible that after you cum you lose interest in pleasing her? If that's the case, chances are that, after you cum, and then spend some time pleasing her, that you'll want to cum again. That's what happens to me :)

    If you've been making her cum first, and then your orgasm ends things, maybe you should try cumming first, and then start pleasing her. Worth a try?
     
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    Was she always like this did she like having sex 3 times a week? I noticed if things worry the female sex isn't on the mind like money, jobs, and regular things. When stress is low sex goes up it takes time to figure out females. You will notice when they ovulate between the end of the menstrual cycle and start of PMS they are more likely to want you. Also sometimes if I back off and don't seem interested she gets horny woman are way more emotional where men are more mechanical.
     
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    First, off topic, pbs, your avatar looks like a vagina.

    Ok, your honeymoon period is over. Yes, she is probably giving in to the three times a week because she wants to make you feel satisfied. She is possibly low on zinc or testosterone. Those two things cause low libido in women. No real advice here being since we don't have her point of view. Is she under any form of stress? Has she gained any weight? Does she take any medications? All of these can also affect a womans libido.
     
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    I know someone a friend of my wife's who is taking testosterone among other hormones she had a total hysterectomy when she was in her 30's. She said she is really horny all the time, but they did warn her it could cause cancer to grow faster.
     
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    she,

    I hope you don't view that as a bad thing - there is a desperate shortage of pics of them on this forum. Actually, it's supposed to be funny, and I got a few laughs when I used it when I first joined the forum :)
     
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    Man I wish I was had that problem



    Maybe because he gets lost in your beautiful eyes, man are they gorgeous.
    (no, its not a pick up line, but rather an observation)
     
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    I have to agree with MMA, sunshine's man is crazy not to be taking care of her sexy ass.

    On topic: 3 times is more than most get, be happy...rub one out to relax you if need be