I think my wife wants to have sex with others

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  1. tomharris

    tomharris New Member

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    My wife and I love each other, but I believe that she wants to have sex with other men. She was a bit sheltered growing up, and she thinks that she missed out on some sexual experiences in the past. We have amazing sex, and want to do it all the time. She's had opportunities to have a casual affair, but hasn't gone through with it.
    I love her, and don't want to stand in her way of exploring and finding herselft. But at the same time I want her just for me.
    Any thoughts?
     
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    So do i (want sex with other men) in my head....

    My husband also thinks I need to?

    But doing it and thinking it are two different things....

    ...and if you want her all for yourself then if she does
    carry through, that prob wont work for you....

    Dont let her slip away if you truly love her...FIGHT for
    her and at the same time keep talking to her and maybe
    she will in time feel you are enough...

    ....and if not, then you may need to let her go...
     
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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    It's one thing to want to see your wife "explore and find herself".

    It's quite another for her to have sex with other men, especially in light of your last statement: "I want her just for me".

    It doesn't sound to me like this relationship is one that would handle multiple partners very well.
     
  4. heelfetish

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    I agree completely, Rose. :)
     
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    You need to be careful as you are heading down a potentially dangerous road. The first thing you need to do is talk to her about it and don't assume that is something she wants. If she does not want it then do not push her or sway her into it. Instead drop the subject for at least 6 months to a year before you bring it up again. She maybe interested in it but cannot see herself going through with it. A lot of women are like that and you will have to accept it.

    Now if she does want it be very clear about what exactly she wants, what are the limits, and under no circumstances surprise her with a situation. The belief that no limits are the best because it allows her to explore the way she wants to without any constraints is rubbish. If you follow that philosophy then you might as well divorce her now because she will wind up in the arms of someone else.

    In all honesty you are probably reading more into this than what really exists. Take the time to talk to her and don't assume. If she does not want to go through with it accept her for who she is.
     
  6. Kronnie

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    I can only say from my point of view , i wouldnt ever wish my lover to be with another male at all no way no how.
    other females that is a different story.
     
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    my advice is just one: talk to her. ask her the questions you're willing for us to answer. if you really love each other you should reach an understanding and make an option together.
     
  8. JJLove

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    QFT!

    having never been married, i can only agree with Kronnie.

    but

    To me it seems that you don't want to share her, and if you did that may end up destroying what you have now. I think it takes a very special kind of relationship to be able to share partners.
     
  9. Animularisen

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    3some? You dont ness have to touch him really...
    4 some then u can have a girl to play with too.
     
  10. melicious

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    The best advice yet! I commend you!