I need some help

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  1. Darkesheart

    Darkesheart New Member

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    I don't know if this is the place to post this, but here goes.

    I have a good friend that is going through something really bad right now. He has been dealing with this for four years, but just finally opened up about it. He messaged me earlier and told me that he couldn't keep going on, and that he just couldn't forget what happened to him four years ago. Part of what breaks my heart so much is that I know exactly what he went through, but I don't want to tell him about it because I don't want to diminish his own pain, or make him think that I am telling him about it because I am trying to diminish what he went through. Shortly after he told me that he couldn't take it anymore and then told me what he went through, he also said that he feels dirty still, and that the reason he gets the tattooes that he does is because he can't stand to look at his own skin. And then he went offline. I am scared that he did something, and it breaks my heart, I care about this guy because he is one of my closest friends, and he has his whole life ahead of him. I am sitting here crying so hard that I can barely see the monitor as I type this. I don't know what to do for him anymore.
     
  2. Kronnie

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    :( That is terriable hun..as for advice i could give i am not sure. but i was reading the advice on this website ( if i am right in thinking what your friend is meaning this could be of some help ( although i know it was 4 years ago hun..)

    http://survive.org.uk/advice.html
     
  3. Bella

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    Oh, I am so sorry! :cry
    Can you call him or visit him?
    ~Bella
     
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    Darkesheart New Member

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    I wish that I could, but he lives in Australie. I did ask if I could call him, but he went offline right after I asked him and hasn't been back on since.
     
  5. Bella

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    Wow! I don't know what else to say...
    Can you call information?
    I mean; how well do you know this person?
    Do you have any mutual friends that could check on him?
    ~Bella
     
  6. Kronnie

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    He could just be taking a time out hun..
    There isnt much you can do until he is ready to get back online...
    Seems a lot of people have had to deal with a lot of bad things in their lives, it is sad when it is something that dweels in our minds and slowly either destroys us or eats away the best parts of us...my problems have eaten away at me on and off at times..

    I truely hope your friend comes back online soon..
     
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    Darkesheart New Member

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    The only mutual friend that we have htat is near him hasn;t been online in about a week and a half. All I know is that he lives in Perth but I am not sure what his address is. I am so scared, and I wish I knew if he is ok or not.
     
  8. Bella

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    I wish there was something that I could do. :(
    We can keep him in our thoughts & prayers though! :)
    Hopefully, you just read too much into it & he will come to his senses!
    I will keep you & him in my thoughts; please let me know if there is anything else

    I can do. :)
    Hugz,

    ~Bella
     
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    I think you should write him about your own problems hoping that worrying about you might help him to worry about himself a bit less.
     
  10. SexyScorp

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    Oh no

    The last thing a person wants to hear
    about is someone elses troubles when
    they are going through a hard time

    Pray for him....I will too....I would
    be happy to send him some healing light
    if you have a picture of him please
    pm me with it.....

    This seems to work well with other
    people who Ive sent healing to in
    the past...

    I would be very happy to help?

    :)
     
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    Thank you all so much. I am sorry that I haven't replied back until now. I haven't seen him since he disappeared offline, and that makes me worry even more. Which has made me start having panic attacks. I am hoping that he is fine, and just needs some more time. I am just worried as hell.

    Thank you Sexyscorp, I will send you that pic of him.
     
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  12. Bluesy

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    I hope you're able to get in touch with him soon, hon. Speaking as someone who's had a lot of experience (too much :p ) with mood disorders, I'm guessing that he's probably just stuck in a depressive funk and can't bring himself to talk to anyone right now. I don't know how reassuring that is...I just know that it's textbook for a depressed person to withdraw into themselves sometimes. And this will probably sound morbid, but people who are bent on killing themselves generally don't talk about it beforehand. A person who reaches out to others is looking for a reason to have hope.

    Good thoughts are going your, and his, way. *hug*
     
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    You keep saying online.
    Pick up that big black telephone and call Him.
    If you don't know the No. Just Google and use this

    That should do it, Hopefully.

    Hiker