I need some advice to make my BFs time in bed better, can anybody help?

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Sanga, Mar 2, 2008.

  1. Sanga

    Sanga New Member

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    Well me and my BF are pretty open to everything, and we've tried just about everything there is. RPing, BDSM, Video-taping, (Not submitting online though) public, normal, heck, I've even had sex with my BF AND another guy. I'm not asking for new brands exactly, (Althought that WOULD rock) I'm more asking for new techniques for what we've already done.
     
  2. evman

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    What else is there? For me I like when my wife gets vocal. Not necessarily talking dirty just talking a lot. I also like it when she takes control and lets me know in no uncertain terms what it is that she wants.

    Have you tried role playing? For instance he could be a handyman coming to fix something in the house but instead of paying him you find an "alternative" method of payment. You could do a striptease for him and he could do one for you. You could try having a threesome with another woman. You could have phone sex with someone while your bf is licking and fucking you. Go out to a bar and let him 'pick you up' or you can pick him up. Pretend your a call girl and negotiate a session with him. Take some pictures and post them on here. I'm sure you can come up with new things to keep you from getting bored.

    Good luck.
     
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    Sanga New Member

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    Hmm. I DO like the idea of having phone sex with someone while having sex with my BF. In fact I think I'll try that, I'll tell you how it works out later, seeya!
     
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    Damn, I meant to say having phone sex with me while having sex with your BF. :ugh
     
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    There are three ways you can approach this issue. The first would be further expanding your sexual experiences together. From your posting I would recommend trying things such as sex toys, swingers clubs, anal, bondage, domination / submission, master / servant, role playing, or even a cuckold. Advantage here it widens your experiences and it can be an activity that the two of you share (figuring out what there is still left to try). Disadvantage is it can be to be a bit mundane and some of the ideas that I have suggested do carry risks which means it is important that you discuss them before trying them.

    Second option would be to examine the activities that you have done and decide which ones the two of you have enjoyed the most. Once you have identified them then build on those experiences by finding ways to make them more enjoyable.

    Final option would be looking at how to build up your relationship. It seems as though when you first meet someone, during the first two years, the focus is on sex and how many different ways you can do it. However after the relationship has been established and stabilized the interest in how many different ways you can do it becomes less important and how to build up the relationshp so that it can endure the challenges that it will face becomes more important. Based on your posting the two of you sound as though you have been together for a while and maybe taking time to build up your relationship will help you focus on the areas that still need to be explored.
     
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    Hmm... Maybe you're right. Sex is fun but it's not all there is to life. I think that our main focus from now on will probably be relationship-wise... Due to the fact that we're probably going to get married soon! (We'll still probably explore the sexual world a bit though... Okay so ALOT, but can you blame us?)
     
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    It sounds to me as if the foreplay doesn't last long enough

    I'm on the young side of life so I don't want to sound as if I know it all. But the best encounters I 've experienced have been when my partner knew my climax was coming and stopped doing what they were doing in order to prolong the suspense, anticipation, and the final explosion of orgasm. I think you need to tie him up, and work him over. I'm just guessing now, but I'm thinking the foreplay is not as long as it could/should be for a couple that has experimented with as many sexual styles as you two. And spice it up with something new...I mean you can use ropes from the garage, but make it special....I have a personal favorite site, try it out... ****** ...they have great service and if you have questions you'll actually get answers. :brow
     
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    My suggestion is part relationship-builder and part new technique--RPing that one or both of you are virgins. It may sound a little mundane (compared to what you've already done and the other suggestions here!), but I think it can help refresh sex AND intimacy. A lot of women I know didn't particularly enjoy their first time (pain and pressure), and whether or not that describes you, think about how great it would be to share your "first time" with your SO (if you didn't the first time). :) Good luck!
     
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    Agree ^, PMN has good selection. -Some long time couple friends rate customer service as quite good also.

    Sorry for editing your post but you'd quoted a post that we'd already removed because it was spam.
     
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    Everything?

    Have you tried saying "I love you!"? Mutually saying it to each other? There's nothing sexier than real love!
     
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    Have you gone the other way threesome style? How about having a friend play "director" for you two while you RP? A homemade porno with bad dialog! :D Hmmm.... I kind of like that one...

    What about different toys with your BDSM fantasy? Have room for a sex swing? Ankle/wrist cuffs plus collar all tied to one ring? Ever seen bondage sheets (they are pretty cool)? You could watch some porn and RP the porn the way you would have done it. Thats about all the ideas I have for right now...
     
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    Just curious as to whether you have tried this yet and if so how it went.
     
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    ditto..sounds interesting