A question for the ladies: We are both in our 40s and been together for about 5 years. When we first started dating she did have an affair with her ex boyfriend. I have dealt with that and tried to put that behind us the best we could do. Lately there has been no passion between us and sex is becoming less frequent. I have a strong sex drive and could have sex almost every day. She only wants sex once a week and on a certain day. She does occasionally please herself with a toy when I am at work. She acts uninterested in having sex and often wants it to finish quickly. Sometimes she won't kiss me while having sex and sometimes there is no foreplay on her part. It is almost like she is not attracted to me and only does this because she feels obligated. I would love a ladies opinion on this.