I love my Virgin Wife...Advice please?

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  1. Mexablax101

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    Well Im about to get married soon to the love of my life. Im 100% sure she is a virgin and I am too. When we get married which will be in 2 days, I plan of having sex with her on our honeymoon which will be the same day.

    Please, im begging you. I love her so much and i want her first time to be the best possible, as comfortable, and pleasurable as possible. I know this is such a bold question but... how do you have sex with a virgin? I dont have a huge penis, but im above average but not by too much. Shes very petite and used to be fat but lost alot of weight (she about 5'1 and weighs about 120 now)

    I know the first time usually hurts the girl but,.. i cant stand the thought of hurting her. I want it to be plesureble for her so what is needed? I understand that foreplay is a must but what about penetration? or fingering? how should i break the hymen? with my finger or penis?

    thanks alot. really I really apprectiate this :) I just love her so much and i want out sex life to be good also. Shes not a sex freak at all and is one of those goody goody kinda girls and I love that about her, and ive dated her 5 years ( with no sex) because we believe in virginity.

    Please help
     
  2. igor

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    Congrats on you two being virgins (as we were when we married over 40 years ago). There is no way any of us can tell you a "how to" properly. What you should have done is do some reading (her too) since there are plenty of good sources in the book stores. Yes foreplay is mighty important - even for us old-timers. Don't get caught up in the myth that penis size is all that important. It's how you act that's important. This is just my opinion, but for the first time at least I would let her be on top and let her guide you into her with her hand. Let her control the insertion. And even with a lot of foreplay, if she isn't wet enough, you should use some lubrication. The first time is seldom perfect.
     
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    Having done it twice with virgins I totally agree with igor.
    Try both of you to be relaxed so perhaps wait until the day after the wedding; take your time and use plenty of lubricant.
    Her on top kneeling over you gently descending allowing for stretching in her own time.
    This could take many minutes so don't force or rush.
    There is no guarantee of enjoyment for her so do not have that sort of expectation but the joy of receiving you may well be her greatest reward.
    Good luck to you both for now and the future.
     
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    I almost hate to bring it up, but I'll take a chance that you've already thought of it. Due to never having had sex before and anxious anticipation and excitement, don't sweat bullets over it if you go poof before you're barely started. It happens all the time with the inauguration into your sexual life. Besides, at your age, you'll be ready to go again in no time. Laugh it off and enjoy the long journey into what it means and feels like to make love to your beautiful wife.

    Make a promise to each other to always tell what feels good and what doesn't. Humans are naturally sexual beings but it takes time to explore each other and figure out exactly how all the parts fit together. Pay attention to her reactions and expressions; body, vocal, and facial to help tune into how your movements affect her, and encourage her to do the same so she can learn what effect her actions have on you.

    And do please come back and give us a report. SF is a good place for advice and ideas for both you and her. Besides we are a really nosy bunch.
     
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    thanks alot everyone :) i just love her so much, and well, im the kinda person where im EXTREMELY self concious and well, i never think im good enough, i had an oppotunity to be an underwear model but i always though of myself as being unattractive and bad body...even though im a fitness trainer. And i always think of my penis as being small even though im above average in both length and girth (not by much). And yes i have been victim to the whole penis size thing until when i studied human anatomy and 2009 study of penis size, i discovered that the true average is really 5 inches erect by measuring the side and 4.85 in girth. Yeah i was surprised too. but even though im above both the old and new average, i still say im tiny. I dont know. thats just me.

    And shes a good girl kinda woman who doesnt read up on stuff like that. or i highlyh doubt she even masturbates honestly 0_0 lol but OMG i love her so much. she doesnt go by looks or my 8 pack, she hasnt even seen my body and loves me. Im mad for her.

    So should i break her hymen with my penis or fingers? and should i not worry about penis/finger penetration and focus more of oral sex?
    again thanks again so much :) and yes i am reading alot into this and ive studied sex anatomy and the female anatomy but it still doesnt compare to experience
     
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    Her hymen may be already broken from tampons. Or possibly all the secret masturbation she's been doing thinking about your honeymoon.;)

    If you want her to love you back for a long time, you need to leave the youthful insecurities behind. Confidence inspires a healthy relationship. Insecurity inspires a needy one. Seriously.
     
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    your very right and thats something i should gain control over.
    what if her hymen isnt broken?
     
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    I agree with HardRocker. Most young women's hymens break long before they actually get around to having sex. It's a very thin piece of tissue and doesn't take much to break it. Dancing, horseback-riding, using tampons, doing gymnastics, etc. If your fiancée is at all active then chances are she's already popped her own cherry. However, there will most likely still be some pain the first time. It hurt for me the first few times.
     
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    One thing that will make the whole penetration thing easier on your wife is, getting her to have an orgasm BEFORE you mount up and ride. I know that once I've had an orgasm I am able to be easily penetrated due to my natural lubrication. Also, after I climax, I'm like a crazed sex beast just dying for some peenie thrusting.

     
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    im just thinking just in case the hymen isnt broken. So your also saying that i should focus more along the lines of orally pleasuring her? no fingering until she orgasms?
     
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    Fingers are good. You don't have to penetrate to stimulate her clitoris, but start slowly and use lube. Look at her pussy and identify the parts you've seen in pictures all your life (don't ogle it like a goofball though). Do not rub her clit with a dry finger, it's too sensitive. Start lightly rubbing the hood of the clitoris first to bring her up slowly, and don't jam and wiggle like the porn idiots do. Be slow and patient and nibble her neck and kiss her while you do it. When she's getting excited, slip one wet finger into her vagina and collect some of her wetness and drag it back out over her clit. Keep doing this and she's yours forever. Switch to your tongue if you wish. GO SLOWLY, it's called foreplay. You might have to wrap your own head with tape to keep it from exploding while you do this.

    You may now insert penis, thrust twice and blow your 19 year old bomb.:lol (I promise, that's what's gonna happen)

    Rinse and repeat as needed. It gets better every time.
     
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    lol and when you say head, im guessing not the head i think with right XD
     
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    At 19, it very well may be the head you think with.

    Wait, cancel that, a lot of men don't seem to ever outgrow the ability to let their southern-most head do the thinking for them. :lol

    Oh, I also wanted to add, while you are fingering her, don't ignore her breasts. The combination of having nipple and clit stimulation at the same time is good stuff.
     
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    i like to think im a pretty mature guy who thinks with his head head and not with his penis, otherwise i wouldnt be a virgin lol and i have had some times but by moral kept me up :)

    and thanks alot for the link. big help. Im a romantic kinda guy so i think the whole, slow and easy thing will be easy. I have a small tongue though XD lol

    thanks again for all your kind help :)
     
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    Just for clarity; I mean your head head, the one with your googley eyes in it.:eyes Not your peckerhead. Just a joke about the tape though. Do not put tape on your dick.:D

    Oh, today is the big day. We want to know all about it. But don't stop what you're doing for us.
     
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    When it comes time to penetrate, prop her bum up on a pillow to raise her hips, that helps a lot!
     
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    so you say that doggy style is best? or me on top? im athletic so i can handle moving alot
     
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    I thought you said you were getting married today. What the heck are you doing here on SF? ???
     
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    It was amazing! The wedding was incredible! We git married in Hawaii and stayed at a 5 star hotel and made love that night. It was incredible! We were intimate from 9- 12 at night! Time went by so fast! We kissed and cuddled then I teased her by gettingcloser and closer till she was so wet she wasdripping down her thighs. She even told me, wow that's slot bigger than I though :) but then said, I know it's going to hurt. Then I layer her on her back, gazing into her eyes then we kissed passionately with our eyes open. I told her, baby I love you, your in control now, then shegrabbed it and slowly slid it in, then grabbed but butt cheeks and moved me in till about half way. It was so tight even I was in pain! She was clenching her teeth and I reached down and kissed her and looked into her eyes. Then she yelped and I pulled out . I kissed her again ten I said, I got an idea,( cause she had blood down there and I wasn't puttin my face down there lol). I didn't tell her that if course. I lead her to the shower and we cuddled and kissed while doing do. Then we left the shower and went back to the bed. That's the part where I put it in. This scene if happened doesn't include the foreplay, or after this cause we are about to go diving. Thanks again!