I just dont get it

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  1. Babiegurl

    Babiegurl New Member

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    I dont understand why there are women out there that don't like giving head or dont do it very often. I dont want to insult anyone that doesnt I just dont understand it. I mean I love to give head and please my husband but I recently heard from a few male friends of mine that they dont get head from their current GFs or SOs. What's the issue? Please can some one fill me in? Why oh why do women shy off of it?
     
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    i gotta hear this....
     
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    I don't get it, either. I'm all about cocksucking.
     
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    This one is easy for me because my ex-husband had the most horrible-tasting cum :p: it's the semen! Why is that so hard to understand? I've talked with a lot of women, and the number one reason they avoid giving head is not wanting to deal with the cum...a lot of them don't even want it in their mouths. My ex's cum was so noxious that just hitting my tongue was enough to make me gag. I either had to incorporate a BJ into intercourse, or he blew somewhere besides my mouth. I didn't know at the time that there are ways to alter the taste :( Like I've said, good sex is a team effort, and it should be fun for both parties. If it isn't fun, you've got to find a solution and work together to effect it. If guys want more BJs, they've got to either let their women know that they don't have to finish in the mouth (this should always be an option out of sheer politeness and consideration, anyway), or they have to change their diet. It's so simple...though maybe not what guys want to hear.
     
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    My SO has mentioned something about, as bluesy said, the taste of cum being the main reason she doesn't like giving head. That said, she still does it... although once a week is about the maximum frequency. I'm certainly not complaining.
     
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    So, how does it make you feel knowing that she's down there out of a sense of obligation, not having a good time?

    If a woman is having a good time giving head, if there's nothing to dread, she can really get into it. Do you think you're getting the best BJ possible out of a woman who wants to get it over with? Uh, no way! So being selfish and lazy, not going out of your way to make oral sex fun for both parties, is not only rude, it's dumb.

    P.S. The flavor of cum is highly individual, so one guy may taste pretty good, another "Ok", yet another "ick", and another guy "repulsive!". It can vary quite a bit.
     
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    I couldn't work out whether you were referring to me or my SO here bluesy. Please clarify.
     
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    It goes either way, she's saying that if your partner or yourself arent putting the quality of work into oral sex it's not fair to the reciver. It work hand in hand if your(general speaking terms) not willing to put effort into making it fun. You have to make the other person know you really want to please them.
     
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    Whooooaaa. So you're saying you want your gf to pretend that performing an unpleasant task is like winning the lottery so you, too, can pretend that she actually enjoys it and get your rocks off without having to put any effort into making it an authentically good time for both of you? Oh boy.

    Look, here it is, cut and dry: If she doesn't genuinely enjoy giving you a BJ, you aren't going to get many of them, and they aren't going to be nearly as wild, crazy, and enthusiastic as they could be. Would you prefer to see her pupils dilate with excitement, a big, hungry grin to grace her lovely face, and have your gal really go to town on your cock like she can't get enough? Or, do you want her to feel like giving you a BJ is a chore, something she may derive a bit of pleasure from (because you're enjoying yourself), but ultimately she's tensed and waiting for it to be over, because in the back of her head she's thinking, "Oh boy, that part I really dislike is coming up soon..."?

    I have a hard time conceiving of how anyone could truly enjoy oral sex, or any sexual activity, knowing that their partner dreads some aspect of it. I have a hard time understanding why anyone wouldn't want to make sex as enjoyable for their partner as possible (and that means giving as well as receiving). It seems to me to be the loving, thoughtful thing to do. I dunno. I'm stumped.
     
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    i love cock sucking, for the taste of it, i'm not sure. my SO hates blowing into my mouth, he's rather use it on my chest or somewhere else
     
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    I'm with you babie, I've never had a relationship that didn't include bjs. I've had some woman who didn't like the swallowing part, that's fine I went on their body instead. Guys also have to keep excellent hygiene so it's a good experience for her, clean and shaved/trimmed.

    I have read many stories on the forum about guys not being able to cum from oral so maybe it goes both ways too.
     
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    i think he has the problem of getting from A) girl not liking it too much to point B) girl going wild doing because she loves it. for guys, especially ones that love oral in both repsects, it seems really weird that the girl has some drawback to giving.

    for me personally, i don't receive many at all, like none in over a year even though i oblidge as much as possible. i love it, but i would also love to have a girl going wild on me and loving it as much. but in the beginning before the kids and marriage and everything, it was a part of our sexual relationship. something happened and they never occur anymore. the problem is pinpointing what exactly has caused this and the way to do that is through communication. as of yet i have not been able to get to that point. it disappoints me and frustrates me. but like many others have said, you cannot make someone do something they don't like doing. and i cant complain about it because that will make it even more of an issue and that is not good. so for me i am stuck in a catch 22. i can't say anything because it make her mad, and if i don't say anything it doesn't happen. i just can't understand what happened from the beginning to now. come to think of it though the bj's were never mind blowing, they were good, but not like going wild and reslly into it kind of bj.

    i guess the most important thing is to communicate and i need to take that step, i just don't know how to approach it without getting into an argumment about it., which i do not want to do.
     
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    We have discussed this in great depth before. See? http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=9716&page=6

    I suppose it's a different slant than the original question asked here, but there are still some interesting replies to that thread.

    Oh, and if you read it, please don't post on it, that would be bumping an old thread, and you can get into trouble for that.
     
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    I think my last wife didn't like it because she suspected I might get a little pleasure from it!:mad
     
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    Besides the cum, I heard a lot of women don't even like the image of even touching male genitals--let alone putting their mouth against it. Before I was exposed to a lot of porn I used to think asking a woman to give head is the most demeaning thing in the world because:

    a) dicks are unclean (pee comes out of there)
    b) the image of a woman on her knees is slightly possessive/sadistic
    c) cum comes out.

    IMO unless you have a well maintained dick and some way of dealing with the cum (either your partner doesn't mind or you ejaculate elsewhere) then you are unlikely to receive a bj.


    Oral condoms?
     
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    it shouldn't even be about any of that. if a man is clean and isn't repulsive and the women hasn't had any kind of traumatic experience involving the sex act then there shouldn't be any problem in the world.

    it baffles me that any women wouldn't want to go crazy on a dick. i mean if i was a women shit, but i am not so i guess that is why i love licking the puss.
     
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    There is a potent perception out there that the genitals are unclean. Thats why even some women are uncomfortable having their partners go down on them.
     
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    that is high school shit, people need to get educated and grow up!!!!!
     
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    Still, it is what it is.
     
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    Some women don't like the thought of putting the instrument that a man uses to pee with in their mouths, and I hardly blame them. It's personal preference.
     
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