[Ask a Girl] I have some serious anal sex questions

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  1. Adventurer

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    So my wife and I are going to be trying anal sex again. We are going to start out light by fingering each other in the shower. For me however, we bought anal plugs. (Well...we bought them for both of us, but they were so big that there's no way my wife would/could start with something that big in her ass. So my finger for her to start with.) I have started using the "smaller" of the anal plugs while in the shower. (And during sex last night)

    For me... I am not liking it as much as I thought I would. Some of the sensations I like...but there is also a lot of...pressure...which I don't really like. It's quite uncomfortable actually. In fact...it mostly (not entierly, as I said, there is some sensation there that I like) feels like I have to really go to the bathroom. :ugh

    So here is my question... I know people talk like its all fun and feels great. Porn shows it as almost orgasmic (even though that's probably 95% acting of course).

    So ladies... honestly...
    Does it actually feel good to you?
    Or does it feel uncomfortable?
    Is it something you actually enjoy, or do you do it basically to make your guy happy or to seem more sexual, etc?


    Does it just feel like you have to go to the bathroom? Does it hurt still? Uncomfortable?
    Or does it become pleasurable after a while? Does the uncomfortable sensations go away? etc etc.

    I dont want to subject my loving wife to something that is going to be entirely uncomfortable. I mean, we dont mind if its mainly just pleasurable for me...I just dont want it to be "her in pain/discomfort while Im getting my rocks off" sort of thing.

    Part of the reason I am experimenting myself so much is to see if it gets better. Here is hoping...

    Guys... Is it different for a guy? In that it get's better? Stays the same? Or is it like, you either like it or never like it, sort of thing? ie different for each guy?

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    Wifey won't let me near her ass. I used to date a girl that loved anal. We had more anal sec than anything and she went crazy every time.

    For me, each time I out something up my ass (finger, dildo) it's gets better. It definitely didn't feel good the first few times I did it like I thought it would. The discomfort goes away. The pressure feeling definitely went away for me. I love it now.
     
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    Does it actually feel good to you? Yes
    Or does it feel uncomfortable? No
    Is it something you actually enjoy, or do you do it basically to make your guy happy or to seem more sexual, etc? I actually enjoy it. I'm normally the one to wiggle my ass down onto his hard cock or when he's thrusting into my vag, I slide him down into my bum.

    Does it just feel like you have to go to the bathroom? Does it hurt still? Uncomfortable? It neither feels bad or like I have to go to the bathroom. The only time it's been uncomfortable or hurt is if I have him slide in a little too fast. Doggy style also doesn't seem to work for anal. It puts too much pressure on me.

    does it become pleasurable after a while? Does the uncomfortable sensations go away? etc etc. That is assuming that it hurts. Since it doesn't, skipping this question. ;)

    Guys... Is it different for a guy? In that it get's better? Stays the same? Or is it like, you either like it or never like it, sort of thing? ie different for each guy? My husband LOVES anal. I get all sorts of moans and gasps from him and if I'm doing it right, a hands free orgasm for him. It doesn't hurt him, it doesn't make him feel like he has to poo, didn't get better over time it just always felt good.

    You could be using the wrong toys, you could be not lubed enough. If you're going in dry, yes, it's going to feel awkward, pressured and not very pleasant. Water doesn't count, bring lube into the shower if you plan to play.
     
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    Ok, I have never done it with a woman, but for me and my toys.

    For what you say, I have the feeling you are going too fast. Don't just lube and insert it. Play with it, insert a finger, play a little more, and then maybe a toy.

    I have one that starts very thin and then grows, and it is a must at the beginning of any session, even though I might later on go to some bigger things.

    In any case, though, for me the pleasurable thing is not the penetration but the prostate stimulation. The orgasm is really bigger than a regular one. But since girls don't have a prostate, I'm also curious at how pleasurable it may be.
     
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    Lucky dog!

    It felt uncomfortable if he went in at the wrong angle, not lubed enough. If you feel you need to go, stop and try to go.

    There was a brief period of this feels good, then a bit of discomfort getting used to it. Then he could pound away and it felt amazing.

    I guess it's like getting into a pool on a hot day. You stick your toes in and it feels good. Jump on and a little cold. A minute later it feels really good!
     
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    I may have been taking things a bit to fast with myself.... that's possible.
    I used soap in the shower to make it slide in easier. But maybe I pushed myself too fast?

    The other night when my wife tried it on me we used... some type of lube. I cant recall what now.

    Anyway... I'll try it again soon. Maybe in the shower tonight. I'll try it a bit slower.
     
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    Don't use soap. Silicon lube is safe for anal but not silicon toys. Buy some lube and use THAT in the shower. Water based lube wont help either, it'll wash off too easily. It shouldn't hurt either of you if you're lubed up and gentle.
     
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    Lube is essential and a desensitising cream might be useful an anal douche may help too. A lot of problems associated with anal is anxiety. If you are worried or self conscious then everything will be tensed up so it will be uncomfortable. Lots of foreplay and a relaxing massage will help things loosen up. I know I enjoy anal and can happily take a good pounding with no discomfort at all and plenty of orgasms!! Take it slow and keep it fun xx
     
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    i haven't tried it yet with full penetration but only with his fingers ( two or three). And now i live far way from him. so it will be like the first time every time.
    Anyway initially i felt uncomfortable and i was afraid on what he thought because it was like one of my dream he never asked me before.
    Does it actually feel good to you? yes i liked it
    Or does it feel uncomfortable? we need to be very relaxed with any rush and pressure
    Is it something you actually enjoy, or do you do it basically to make your guy happy or to seem more sexual, etc? i asked him to do it.. for me...i hope he liked it...

    Does it just feel like you have to go to the bathroom? Does it hurt still? Uncomfortable?
    for the first five minutes i felt like that.. it hurt me a bit but only for my blame.. he was very gentle and slow..

    i'm honest i think it's something amazing for a couple... it makes them so close each other..so in my opinion take your time.. talk to her always..
    and keep going.. don't give up...