i have never entered my penis in my wife vagina,

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  1. handyman270470

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    i have never entered my penis in my wife vagina
    Hi
    I have been married for 11 years and i have never entered my penis in my wife vagina,

    I am 5ft 10 and my wife is 4ft 11 and weare having trouble to have another baby.

    We luckily had a child in year 2000, as we got married in 1999 and then me penis did not enter my wife vagina and she still got pregnant.

    My wife she does not like smear test, as when they put the applicator inside her she feels uncomftable.

    when i am trying to have sex my penis is directing to the vagina and then it is bending down or rubbing against between her thighs and sometimes i get sick and tired and it get weak due to it does not go in to her vagina.

    We are trying for more children, but these past 10 years we have been unsucessful,

    i was at a stage to look for another woman to have an affair, as i have never had proper sex.

    We went to see the Doctor and my wife thinks she is Vaginmius, she was given 3 applicator to insert into her Vagina, but i think she done it may be once or twice and i dont think she reached the large applicator.

    I am just depressed all these years and we can not do anything about it, as we are now in our 40's. She is worried she will be in her Menaupose.

    We went to see a lady therpaist and she just talks and she how our relationshiop is. I though it waste of time, as our real problem is sex, as i can not penetrate into my Wife Vagina.

    She says i am stress and i can feel she gets tense, so i do not know if she is scared, but she saying no. I am really confused, so this is why i came on this forum to see if anybody in my situation and see how they have helped them with thier sex life, as i want more children.

    Please help, as your help will us and my wife, as my child say when are you going to get me a brother or sister.

    Please help or advise.

    I honeslty do not know what to do, as i have masterbated so many times to make me feel good.

    I trying to persuade my wife, but she has tried her best, as she wants children and she has gone to the Doctor quite few time, but due to we have child, he just said keep trying. We have been trying over 10 years and no success and for me it is very distressing, as i am still a virgin, if i have not inserted my penis into my wife vagina.

    Please anybody help.

    We went to see the Doctor and my wife thinks she is Vaginmius, she was given 3 applicator to insert into her Vagina, but i think she done it may be once or twice and i dont think she reached the large applicator.

    I Somtimes thought to myself do i have problem, do i have Erectile Dysfunction, but i dont, as i do get a hard on, as i can masterbate, but after trying for sex and when it does not go in to my wife vagina i get frustrated and sometimes it get weaked and then i have to rub between her thigh close to her vagina.

    I am just depressed all these years and we can not do anything about it, as we are now in our 40's. She is worried she will be in her Menaupose.

    We went to see a lady therpaist BASRT Accredited Supervisor and she just talks and she how our relationshiop is. I though it waste of time, as our real problem is sex, as i can not penetrate into my Wife Vagina.

    She says i am stress and i can feel she gets tense, so i do not know if she is scared, but she saying no. I am really confused, so this is why i came on this forum to see if anybody in my situation and see how they have helped them with thier sex life, as i want more children.

    Please help, as your help will us and my wife, as my child say when are you going to get me a brother or sister.

    This is no joke and it is real life situation and this is why i came on the website, as you can not speak to the family members, friends, as they will just laugh and joke.

    My wife has seen the lady therapist psychology service, BASRT Accredited Supervisor, but they talk to you and try to find your relationship and see if you have any other problem. I went couple of times with my wife and i did not find it would help me, as it was only talk and talking about our relationship.

    My wife got pregnant somtimes in November / December 1999, as my penis did not enter her vagina,the end of my penis may be at the correct position and i have injected my sperm from into her vagina, as i can still remember my penis never went inside her vagina and luckily she got pregnant.

    It is not happening now, as the sperm either between her outside vagina, thighs or on the bed sheet.

    So you can see my frustration, as my wife went to the Doctor and he said you Know you have already a child , so you need to keep trying, as is not you have problem. We have been trying 10 years and my wife and i are already fed up.

    Thank you all for looking into this and any further advice will be appreciated.

    The is my Child for certain.

    My penis is not broken or eaten off.

    I am not gay.

    We do lot of foreplay and somtimes it cum too quickly, if i had not sex for a while, but generally i am fine.

    Thank you all for your replies.

    What is large plugs or is it the applicator , whihc our therpaist given they had 3 sizes small, meduim and Large like the shape of the penis.


    Yes Steve no penetration At ALL.

    My wife use to go Regular to see the Therapist locally. I could not go due to work pressure and difficult to keep getting time off.

    We have made a new appointment with a new doctor, as this will be 1st appointment and we will have to see what he is like, as the Local Doctor made the appointment, as my wife pressured the Doctor, as she recieved the information from the Therapist Secretary.

    She does not have any sexual trauma. She never had sex with anyone except myself, as i am the first partner. We were both Virgin at the time of our Marriage.

    She has never used Tampons, as she use the pads.

    I will keep you up to date with the Doctor appoitnment.

    update.

    We went to see the Doctor who specialises who can not have children.

    She was shocked that i am still the partner for all these years.

    She said she can not have the IUI, as if she can not do the smear test then she will not be able to do this IUI self incemination at the hospital clinic. Which cost £800.00.

    The next option would be IVF, as this sedate you and numb you and you can not feel the pain, as this way she may able to get pregnant and this will cost £3000.00.

    We will try first with Turkey bastor and take it from there.

    I am just in a situation helpless and my wife i feel sorry for her for the problem and i have never ever experienced proper sex, as we have only done foreplay, basically it.
     
  2. Kermit

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    thank you for putting it into paragraphs lol
     
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    Re: i have never entered my penis in my wife vagina

    Wow, quite the post here...I will proceed going on the assumption that this is real and you're not just looking for attention.

    I would say your wife needs a psychiatrist, not a psychologist or sex therapist. She has a serious mental disorder.
     
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    Whatever you both need help. "Go stick penis in wife vagina and get kid"
     
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    Hi This is real situation and i just copied my comments from the other forum i replied to and this is why it is in paragraph.

    I have a problem and i just do not know what to do.
     
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    My question to you is how did your wife get pregnant the first time when you've never had actual intercourse?
    It's very strange and unusual for this to actually happen.
     
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    Turkey baster? Thats what I was wondering. And I wouldn't have stayed married 11 months...hell 11 days, without sex, much less 11 yrs. And what does size have to do with it? My father is 5'11", my mother is 5'..and they had 3. My sister dated a guy that was 6' 4" and she's 4'11" and they didn't have any problems with sex.
     
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    That pretty much says it all.
     
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    I'll go with bizzare; immaculate conception perhaps?
    Dude you want kids, well no other way but fucking other than artificial insemination.
    Cloning humans is still not really an option.
    Seriously tho' you both have major issues.
     
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    Since none of the above replies offers any help, might I suggest you buy some lubricant for sex to help your penis enter her vagina. You can get it at Wal Mart near the pharmacy. Baby oil works great too and you can get it at any grocery store. Put some on your penis and put some in her with either your or her finger. Use plenty. When you try to stick your penis in, I promise it will go. Hang on for a great ride. Hope you get her pregnant.
     
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    If sh is/has im not sure how to phrase this term, vaginmius then you want to find the treatment for that, which i will provide a link here
    Treatment - Vaginismus.com
    And to that lady who was trying to find out about your "relationship problems" be upfront and say its sex, and be honest saying out of 11 years of marriage and however long you dated you have not had sexual intercourse, that can be a make or break, if you don't want to sound vulgar, phrase it as "I have never made love to my wife" Cause that can be a major relationship problem, not that im a guy but sex is important, its a Stress reliever and it has a few other health benefits.... so hope this helps and good luck
     
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    Thank you for your replies.

    We are luck in a way we have child, as my Penis must be in the correct place at the time and when i was cumming it must of injected into her vagina, but now it is not happening.

    She is not interested ,as i told her you need to excercise, we trying last night and he she says i am tired and told her to use Turkey Bastor and she was not keen.

    I am not happpy at all.
     
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    Generally cum doesn't just..randomly enter into the vagina without the penis being in it or the cum being on something that enters the vagina itself.

    Not to be too forward, but are you sure that the child is yours? It's VERY strange and unlikely for a woman to get pregnant without having intercourse.

    If you're still together now and everything you're doing isn't working for getting her pregnant, then obviously something fishy is up.

    I'm sorry, I find her story a bit unlikely and feel sorry or you to have put up with it.
     
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    You should get a dna test between you and your child to make sure it is yours. It is highly unusual for a woman to get pregnant without the semen going inside, it does happen though (had to be one determined sperm). Also you should go to a sex therapist, you should both get regular counseling because this is a problem that needs to be solved. Your wife should also be willing to do something about this. Talk to her and see if there is any other problems since it doesn't seem like she is willing to try to have sex.
     
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    Just an update.

    My wife went to the therapy, but it did not work. We have brought Turkey bastor and tried this week, so hoping on the result to see if she gets Pregnant.

    Doctor said to do an IUI incemnation of sperm, she can not be sedated, so this is out of the question, as this was the cheapest option. Ivf is going to be prices around $7500 usd.

    I hope the Turkey bastor does the trick and she can only enter 1/2 inch of Turkey bastor and no more than that, as it hurts her. She does it herself, so she can control herself.

    I will keep you upto date if she get pregnant, but my penis has still not inserted her.
     
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    Where are you originally from?
     
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    Could you explain more about why you think your penis will not go in her vagina? If I understand correctly, you try, but she says that it hurts. Is that right?

    As Hardrocker says, I would advise using lubricant. Maybe KY Jelly. Perhaps you could put your finger in slowly and carefully. Then she would get used to having something smaller in her vagina. Use lots of lubrication and go very slowly. Maybe she could hold your hand and that way she controls how deep your finger goes in and how fast.

    If she is ok with your finger, next use two fingers. It's not the same as your penis, but it's a part of you, and if she can get used to that it could help her accept your penis.

    Perhaps she could even start by using her own finger to help her relax. Again, use lots of lubrication. You can both lie back in bed in a warm room. Maybe nice, relaxing music. She puts her finger into her vagina, with lots of lubrication. When she is ready, you put your finger in, with lots of lubrication.

    Another idea is to use a mirror so that she can see what is happening to her. It can be frightening and scary to let someone touch a place that is so sensitive and delicate and private. If she can see what you are doing and see your finger before it touches her and then see it enter her, maybe she will feel more in control.

    Good luck! Please let us know how it goes :)
     
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    Only a 1/2 inch of Turkey bastor? You will have just as much luck with a bottle of lube and a 1/2 inch or so of you inside her.
     
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    I dont get you. 2nd are there cliffnotes for that post? \

    Sorry to be mean but what is the problem with penis + vagina. It feels good and thats the only way to have a kid. Yeah it makes me wonder how she got the first kid. Reminds me of Me, Myself, and Irene. How are any of you happy with over a decade without sex?! I mean why suffer. You're doing it wrong!!