I have a Major crush on my GFs Best Friend, but does she like me???

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  1. Mestizomad

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    Hey there,

    I'm 25 and have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 years now, my only regret is that I have not had a whole lot of other experiences with women outside of my girlfriend, and I worry that I'm gonna get old and regret not having enough fun in life, as I do miss the frill of the chase etc.

    Anyhow, the main reason why I'm here. I REALLY fancy my girlfriends very attractive and pretty best friend, and I do reckon that she likes me also, well here are a few reasons:

    - she always finds what I say to be funny and always agrees with me, even when GF does not,
    - we have tonnes and tonnes in common,
    - she always wants to talk with me and seems to put a lot of effort into making conversation,
    - she has commented to my GF that she like my hair, body and thinks I am handsome on separate occasions,
    - she likes tall men, who are muscular, bit of a gym/health nut, maybe tanned, are practical, hands on, traditional, manly, intelligent and adventurous, I am ALL of these things..
    - she knows that I have a MAJOR MAJOR thing for ginger girls, and has just dyed her hair Ginger, and makes jokes to my GF about how she better stay away from me because she knows i love Ginger girls..
    - on two separate group nights out, she has been v sexy dancing, and on both occasions she made multiple attempts to get me to dance with her, inc grinding etc, lots and lots of eye contact and talking the whole night,
    - she also made a side comment whilst talking about salsa with my GF that she would like to sexy salsa dance with me,
    - my girlfriend has asked on two occasions now whether there is anything going on between me and her friend,
    - she has invited me to socialise with her at her house on multiple occasions when my girlfriend is away or at work,
    - when she camped at our place for several weeks, she regularly left v v sexy lingerie hanging around all over the place, almost like she was teasing me (either way it was a little inappropriate).
    - she has been single for almost a year now and is known for being a bit of a nympho, so is probably v horny at the moment,
    - this might be the biggest clue, she has actually ASKED my girlfriend in the past about having a threesome, as in myself, my girlfriend and her. My girlfriend turned here down politely.
    - I accidentally saw her getting changed once when we were opposite each other in a mixed changing rooms, I saw here almost naked when she left the door partially open right opposite me, and she didn't seem that bothered when we made eye contact for a split second before I politely looked away.
    - she has DEFINATELY caught me looking at her body at least once before when she wore something super tight and sexy, and she didn't seem to mind and actually seemed to want to make loads of conversation, even though I was the one who was saying that I had to go somewhere and ended the conversation.
    - i have this silly running joke with my girlfriend that I am a massive player and that I have loads of wenches or hoes (I'm not a player at all), however my GFs friend finds it amusing if I call her one of my wenches and we make mild sexual jokes or references about one another.
    - I have been growing a beard for about a year now, and I always thought that she liked clean shaven men (or certainly used to) and now all of a sudden she announces to my GF that she likes men with beards.
    - also she used to like quite thin and scrawny or emo guys, were as I am more built and muscular, and now all of a sudden she announces that she likes bigger and more muscular guys.
    - she just seems genuinely quite flirty sometimes, maybe when texting or chatting, lots so smiley faces and kisses on texts etc..

    There are other things as well, however as this is already ridiculously too long, I shall leave it at those for now.

    This sound really teenage I know, I'm just not v good with women that all, so maybe I'm reading into things too much.

    Myself and my gf have discussed an open relationship before, as we both still wanna have a bit of fun whilst we are still young. If we were in one, her friend would be at the top of my list, and the good thing is that I DONT think that we would be compatible on terms of a relationship for various other reasons, however I would just like to bang her every now and again, and I reckon that she would be up for that too.

    Even had the fantasy of us both having sex with her, either separately or as a threesome, as both my GF and her friend are BiSexual.

    And then just to cap this off, just the other night, my girlfriend admitted to having a sex dream about her friend...

    Anyhow, there is my dilemma, probably not much that can be done, but thought that I would just share and see what people have to say,

    Thanks

    Max
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    Don't even go there. Unless it's ok with your girlfriend and you really should bring it up to her if you feel that strongly about it. However keep in mind that this could ruin your relationship with your girlfriend. Are you prepared for that if it happens?
     
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    That feeling you're having is responsible for a very high percentage of "virgin" marriages failing or having one or both cheat. If I were you, I'd "take a break" and find out for sure what you're missing. If you're ment to be, you'll get back together but it will greatly strengthen your relationship or determine you aren't really meant to be together and not as compatable as you thought. I'd stay away from the GFs friend though.
     
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    I think that you should flirt back and see how the friend acts. If you play your cards right you could have your cake and eat it too. Wait until the friend gets drunk,the truth come out most of the time then. Good luck give us an update in he near future.
     
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    Sounds to me like you need to sort out where you want to go with your relationship(s) from here. Then, after getting a general grasp on that, sit down and talk this all out with your GF and this friend - both separately and together... It's not easy, but it's probably the best way to avoid an even messier and more screwy situation down the road.
     
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    You should ask your girlfriend to hook you up with her friend, see how that works out.
     
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    My wife has a friend who acts similar to your gf's friend.
    My advice: enjoy the fact that someone is attracted to you. Indulge in the occasional fantasy.
    But don't make a move in reality.
    There's no good outcome that I can see in it for you. And the girls for that matter.
    Again just advice. Good luck to you.
     
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    ^ BlueC said it best ^
     
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    I like this solution simply for the guaranteed resulting sky-works!
    And then.......there was none :(
     
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    First off that original post was a huge turn on thank you.

    But I agree with the overall consensus.

    Maybe like Backcheck said a break should be taken.
     
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    Mestizomad, the GF is a cock teaser hell bent of getting you away from your current woman.
    Agreed with Untamed, this scenario is hot with sexual tension but beware if she succeeds then you are fried and will surely lose both.
     
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    Everything you've said about this girl just screams "bad idea".
     
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    Hi everyone,

    Thanks for all of your help and advice. I do agree that she is most likely bad news and i would not leave my girlfriend for her or anything like that. Who knows, maybe at some point in the future we shall be in more of an open relationship, or maybe not.

    So for the time being i shall stick to the occasional flirt every now and again and keep her for my naughty thoughts and my wank bank.

    I do absolutely love the idea of having a naughty secret fuck with her from time to time, something purely heated and sexual and with no emotions or ties, but i think i would probably feel too guilty afterwards, unless maybe my GF was shagging her too.

    Untamed, i'm glad that my post turned you on. I have written a short story / fantasy about my situation which can be found here:

    http://www.sexualforums.com/threads/camping-fun-with-my-girlfriends-best-friend.44225/

    It's quite poorly written as i wrote it quickly at night on my ipad lol, but i think the basic story is ok.

    cheers

    Max
     
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