I can't stand coming home

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  1. ronhiway

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    Anyone here hate to come home to a house where the spouse is there but not really there if you know what I mean. Sleeping alone once again, she there in the bed with the kid.
     
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    yes, why?
     
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    Can't say I know what your going through, but I've only been married 24 yrs. I can't wait to get home. I just don't get to do it enough with running kids all over the place.
     
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    Why is she sleeping with the kid? The kid should be in his/her bed and wife should be in bed with you.
     
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    What else is going on that you want to talk about?
     
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    I can only echo everyone else. More information is needed if we're to be of any real help.
     
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    ronhiway please let us know :ugh
     
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    I got married in 2006 life was good. I was happy to have such a beautiful loving person. For the first time in a long time I had something besides work to look forward too. Fast forward to the present. I come home wife is on phone or computer (with work) sale manager until time for bed then she goes to bed with the kid. That my biggest issue always has been. For a long time I put my foot down and said she can sleep alone, now it does no good. Her excuse is "I feel like I have to pick between you too" She cries if I am not in there with her and you get angry if I'm not in there with you. Any suggestion
     
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    Wait. She's putting the kid over you? Regardless of the age, that's not okay in my mind. Yes, ones children are important, but I really don't think they should be above the couple, and certainly not if it creates situations like this.

    Unfortunately I have no idea how to deal with that. Perhaps someone else here will have a better perspective.
     
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    Not so much a sexual discussion as a relationship issue, I would have thought. I personally can't wait to get home, and that's after 24 years of marriage. My wife is always there for me, and always has been even when we had young children.

    I don't think an ultimatum will work, but you should express your desire to re-connect with her in a positive light. This means that you should make it clear that you want to have a stronger relationship with her and the reasons why. As far as the child goes, it's not a case of one or the other, but there must be times for a mother to also be a wife and a lover.
     
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    It should be two entirely different types of relationship. A parent-child, and a husband-wife. Sleeping with a child is not a healthy parent-child relationship as it can inhibit the child's development of a sense of security and independence.

    A parent-child relationship is all about guiding the child to be a self supporting adult, no matter how remote that seems at an early age. That's the age when the fundamentals of personality are formed.

    A husband-wife relationship is all about teaching a child how adults; men and women; fathers and mothers; parents and children; children and children, should relate to one another.
     
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    it's some kind of confort thing


    I remember last year when I left for Washington my mom swiped my blanket from out of my room
    I did take it back and this time it's coming with me.. when I go back on the 18th of this month.
     
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    im personally pro co-sleeping. i enjoy snoozing next to my little ones. i slept in my fathers bed until i was in my early teens, as i had absolutely HORRIFIC nightmare and hallucinations
    however, that being said, i don't co sleep with my kids now, they are nearly 3 and 5. yes, they can cry if im not there with them, but now they enjoy their room and their bed, i want it to be their safe zone.
    they can come have a cuddle if they had a nightmare, and my littlest still cries everytime he wakes up, but he now asks to be put back into bed.

    i personally don't believe in giving into EVERY little thing that a child cries about.
    perhaps though, it's more comforting for the parent. i know in some cases it is. i can only speak from my experience, but some nights when i feel absolutely aweful, for one reason or another, i crawl into one of my kids bed whilst their asleep and just lay with them for a while, i love hearing them breathe. one of the reasons this is so important to me though is due to the child i lost. sometimes i just lie with them for half an hour with my hand resting where i cn feel their breath on me. there are reasons behind everything.

    how old is your daughter?