I can't orgasm

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  1. mrmanguy2

    mrmanguy2 New Member

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    Finally today my 1st partner that i've been really intimate with gave me oral sex, but it was as if I couldn't feel much. I knew I should be able to, but I just couldn't feel much. I found a way of masturbating back when I was in preschool, but it is very awkward and is the only way I know how to orgasm..I titled the topic as such because I really need help...I can't go on only getting off by myself..my gf will start to think somethings wrong, which is what i'm starting to think. Has masturbating the same way since preschool done something to the sensitivity?

    Any suggestions at all?
     
  2. Animularisen

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    Of course not, I know boys who have masturbated for years.
    Do you know if she's doing it right? Gripping hard enough. Teach her...
    If you teach her how you do it then surely it'll go right and I'm sure she'll be happier when she knows she can make you cum. Talk to her also, I've found that talking to my boyfriend about things helps because we work on them together. Two minds work better then one.
     
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    have her do some, you do some.. get your point where you've climaxed enough and have her finnish.
     
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    mrmanguy2 New Member

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    But the problem is, the way of masturbating that I have is very very awkward and embarassing..lol
     
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    MrManguy,

    You may just be a little nervous and that's what's holding you back. Try this: Make it a point to slowly explore her body. Find out what makes her feel good. Chances are by the time she cums, you'll be less nervous, and more relaxed. In fact, show her how you like to be stroked... how you like to be touched. It may be a case where you just need a little time to get to know each other.

    Elisabeta
     
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    You might have TMS. Google for Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome.

    Here's an Alice article: http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/5599.html

    Best recommendation is to stop all masturbation for 1 month, let your dick regain sensitivity, and don't ever masturbate that way again. I'm not sure how you used to do it, but it seems like it's a bad method. Good luck.
     
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    mrmanguy2 New Member

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    that's exactly it. thank you for giving me that link. i masturbate face down, and have for quite a long while. I dont think there's any hope for me..i've tried other ways and just cant come
     
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    The solution that I found

    Hi
    Even I had same problem.
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    here's the link which I went from..


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