We've been together for 8-9 years and I found out recently that I can't give her an orgasim. She claims I have but I suspect I haven't. We have tried all types of positions, oral, masturbation, I even bought a toy that I thought would help us out, no luck. She says that shes just one of those girls that has a hard time reaching orgasim. Is this posible? I feel like such a failure, we were both virgins when we meet and have no experience with anybody else so I don't know if I'm just a shitty lover or what. Now last night she says "we should take the night off". well we just had two nights off, whats up with that. I went to bed, she stayed up to watch TV. I guess the Tv brings her more pleasure then me. Anyone have anything to say that might help?