[Ask a Girl] I bet I beat all of you!!

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  1. VirginManChild

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    OKAY! LADIES, so here is the scoop. I am 25 and a Virgin, yep proud of it too, it I used to hate it but as you get older I find that it is better that I have sex with the right person(clean, freakin hot as hell, and worth the wait) then bang any dumpster slut that comes my way. So here is the question I have.

    Who here finds virgins a turn on?( and when i say virgin the most I have had was a hand job, no head nothen! haha! would you want to know before or after? and just some tips you women out there can give me. I feel like I am being a little quick, in fact the girl i just started dating now told me the other night to slow down. All I did was ask for a kiss(she was drunk i was trying to play my cards haha!) and maybe do a boob grab haha!.

    So should i tell her that i am virgin or should i keep it from her like i have kept it from the rest?

    P.s she still went on another date with me after the butt chewing I got for moving to fast! haha!
     
  2. Lover4You

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    From experience, my husband was a virgin till he was 23, I was his first, and yeah its nice knowing yur -supposedly- not being compared to anyone else (oh except all the porn stars because, since he hadn't had sex w real women, his expectations are trashed and unrealistic...anyway) it sux that there is no experience. Although i was graceful about it, after 2 yrs of practice, its still often unsatisfying. There's something to be said about experience or at least a willingness to learn.
    But congrats on keeping it together for so long.
    About the girl, she was prolly more pissed that you were trying to take advantage of her while she was drunk than the kissing itself. Just a heads up cuz that's a no no.
    I wouldn't volunteer that information so quickly, especially of she feels you need to slow down but who knows.
     
  3. cbrmale

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    Lover4You is quite right, and my wife was a virgin when we married and never really recovered from that. We all need several or more sexual partners to gain experience and confidence, and without that there is something really big missing. I had a lot of experience and my wife eventually learned from me, but it took a long time and a lot of patience on my part.

    The problem with virgins and sex is they don't know what they don't know. This is why we all need a number of partners so we can get a grasp of what sex is really about.

    Before marriage I had more than a hundred partners, but that's another story.
     
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    I was a virgin 'til I was 21. Not that I didn't try, but it just wasn't ever "right." Then, I happened to tell my college roommate's girlfriend (who was quite experienced) that I was a virgin, and she made it her mission to make sure I had more than a couple of good blowjobs, pussy lickings, and fucks under my belt before she let me loose. IMhO, it can be as much about getting over the nervousness and awkwardness as anything else. If you want to remain a virgin until the time is right, more power to you. Go for it.

    I really want to comment on the "dumpster slut" thing, but I'll hold my tongue...

    T
     
  5. HardRocker

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    If it makes you feel any better, RN, I took it to mean "than" bang any dumpster slut, not "then" bang any...
    I could be mistaken. Or maybe it was the image of said slut that got you.:ugh

     
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    I read it as "than" but reading it as it stands just made that comment a lot funnier :lol (in an offensive kind of way)
     
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    sorry to stray off topic , but arent we due for a new song of the week? I love Alvin Lee and ten years after, but it's time...lol....
     
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    I was a" virgin" till I was 23. I did have my share of experience with hand jos fingeing tittyfucks and oral sex but never shared penetration until I met my wife. I didn't tell her until we were dating awhile and started to share details of our past. By that time she didn't believe me. LOL she got mad at me for not being truthful and I had to drop it. I think that all the pussy licking I had done trained me to make sure a lady was satisfied. Whereas some of the guys she had fucked weren't very good even though experienced. Experience is like size. It don't mean nothoing if you don't know what to do with it.
     
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    Experience is important. It's not really fun to sleep with an unexperienced guy. You should first do some training in the secure situation of a serieous relationship with a patient girl who knows about it.

    So: If you just want to sleep with a girl, do not tell her. She may lose interest if she knows about it. If you want to keep her, tell her before you sleep with her. She will not expect your first sex to be very good and will be less disappointed afterwards.
     
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    Yes we are. Hang on and I'll take care of it momentarily. Sorry about that long week.
     
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    I also was a virgin until I turned 21 and not proud of that as I was way behind my peers in the quality experience stakes.
    One advantage tho' most stupidly got their GF pregnant and married real early so at the end of the day I probably ended up doing a lot more different pussy than them :)
     
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    In light of all of the above, this probably sounds corny, but . . . My wife and I exchanged virginity (I gave her mine, and received hers in return) on our wedding night. We were both 23.

    There is something very special, significant and meaningful about taking the virginity of the girl who is taking yours.
    The girl who will be your life partner.
    The girl you have chosen to give something you can never give to anybody else.
    The girl who trusts you with not only a painful and embarrassing moment, but also the moment when she is perhaps more emotionally naked than any other time in her life.
    The girl to whom you want to give the greatest possible physical pleasure.
    The girl who wants to make you twitch and quiver like nobody else ever can.
    The girl with whom you will mutually teach and learn all you need to know about erotic pleasure.
    The girl who doesn't even notice that you are finishing after only 15 seconds, because it is YOUR seed spilling into her.
    The girl who will say, only two hours later, "Let's do it again . . ."
     
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    Not counting a couple of perfunctory, ceremonial, peck-on-the-lips kisses, I recall only one girl who kissed on the first date. And she REALLY kissed! We had first laid eyes on each other about 6 hours before that first-date kiss, but one year plus two weeks after it we were kissing at the altar - and are still married, almost 38 years later.

    OK, you're right: it doesn't happen quite like that to real people. I confess - we had been writing to each other (real letters, on real paper or perhaps a friendship card) for about 3 months before we met. The letters got progressively more serious over that time. In retrospect, it was a good way for two quiet-and-shy people to get acquainted and fall in love.

    The "I beat all of you" phrase is a little catchy, but it raises the question of what sort of "game" you are playing. The "Should I tell her I'm a virgin?" question is somewhat similar. There are reasons why people are (or aren't) virgins, and they point to the significance they place on their sexuality. If you are telling a girl your sexual history (or lack thereof) an hour after making her acquaintance, you are essentially saying that your sexuality defines and controls what makes you, YOU - and in my mind that makes you not much different from the most promiscuous hedonist.

    I'd say the girl whose vagina is the very first to envelope your erection really should know that she is the first, and she should have some respect for that event, and your attitude about it. She should know this well before it happens, but not much before t becomes likely to happen. Based on my personal experience - I hope it's the same way for her. :)
     
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    Just mumble it during sex. Like:

    "I'm a schmirvin."

    "What?"

    "I'mfavirgun."

    "Excuse me?"

    "Oh god it feels so good around my dick!"
     
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    The real question you should be asking is why you have to contemplate whether or not to tell a girl that you are a virgin. If you are honestly worried that she will reject you on that fact alone, then I can guarantee you that she is not worth your dick in the first place…

    I met a 28 year old virgin two years ago (he was 26 at the time) and I’d give everything to be his first. I wasn’t concerned with his virgin status when he told me (although I recognize it was an issue for him to “confess”) because our hooking up wasn’t in question – as we were just friends. But how things have changed!

    We have talked extensively about his trepidations concerning his first time and what I’ve realized is that I would be perfect for him! I have no delusions that the first time would be the most awe inspiring sex I’ve ever had or that he will even last long enough for me to get off…but that is not what I am after. I love the idea of his nervous energy and me being the one to relieve that in him. I fantasize about him wanting to touch my body but not knowing if I’ll enjoy or accept his choices so I anticipate his needs and lead his hands to the areas I know he is dying to feel. I’m obsessed with being the first to feel his dick pulsate when he cums. And most of all…I want to be the first girl he releases his cum into!
     
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    Turned me on. What's holding things up?
     
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    Damn! Makes me wish I was still a virgin..
     
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    I so needed to lose my virginity to someone like this. Wow. I lost mine regrettably to another virgin. This was followed by 2 years of boring textbook unadventurous sex. What a waste.

    In my mind I always had extremely wild fantasy encounters with woman that knew what they were doing. And always hoped the loss of my virginity would be like that. Pretty unrealistic.... I know... Especially since I was nowhere near sexually competent enough to satisfy an experienced woman.
     
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    Married with children. :coocoo
     
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