I have been seeing my wonderful BF for 8 months. We had some problems in the beggining. We had both been hurt really badly and both have issues stemming from our past that are affecting us now. His main problem is he now does not want to commit at all. He was doing really well with it. He is faithful to me and I have no worry about him cheating at all. He is just not ready to even think about marrige or any sort of long term promises. My problem is I have become clingy and desperate. I am a very insecure person and tend to say and do silly things to make myself appear to be stronger than I am. I sometimes make jokes at his expense and say risque things in public. While I am doing this I know it is wrong but can't seem to stop myself. Well, we had a blow up yesterday. Things have been tense with him for a while. His sexual desire has dropped off (he has been renovating a house and working really hard) and I know it is in part due to his feelings changing. His mother called him and apparently expressed concern about our compatibility. He is not a mommies boy but he does respect his parents and their concerns hold water with him. I was angry because his family and I get on really well, or so I thought. Well, it all ended with me leaving his house and him saying he wants to take a break. I also feel that things have become to intense and I could not wait to get back home. I just wanted to go back to seeing him on the weekends, but he has now taken it to the point of where he wants time out and is not sure if he wants to be with me or anyone for that matter. He says he loves me and would be a fool to leave me, he says I would make a wonderful wife and mother and he wants me in his future. He just says he needs space and time right now. He wants to continue seeing me and stay exclusive with me but to cool off a bit. We have lived together for a month over the holidays and it just seemed like we were in each others pockets. I want the same thing, space and time for myself. I just can't shake the feeling that he wants me out of his life. I am worried and therefore find myself becoming clingy. What should I do? Should I carry on as if nothing has happened? Should I wait for him to call me? (which he has done twice since he asked me to leave yesterday). He says he needs to clear his head if there is to be any future between us, with money pressure, work pressure and me it is a lot for him to contend with. How should I go about handeling this. I have already told him to take the time he needs and I will be here to support him when he needs me. Is that right? Is that how I should go about this. I love this man and want to marry him. I am also aware that I am not mature enough to do that and need to mend myself from my past experiences that have broken me down and made me this insecure person I am now. As it stands now I am only seeing him next week Wednesday, that is the 17th of Jan. He has two friends from overseas staying at his place and wants to show them around for the weekend. Yes, one happens to be a girl he slept with once. Although he says that he is not interested in sleeping with her again. I beleive him and know he will not cheat. If he does I will find out and dump him. Any advice would be great!