i am a cheater :(

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  1. gaddy

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    i have sex with girls other than my gf. i cant help it. :(
     
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    Can't help it? What does that mean??
     
  3. heelfetish

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    Of course you can help it. I have nothing against swinging (When both partners know and agree to it), however cheating is in another league altogether. :(
     
  4. Kronnie

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    You just have to not cheat on someone you are dating, or let the person you are dating know that you constantly cheat on them.
    Cheating is never cool and is a great disrespect to the other partner.
     
  5. LaVitaDolce

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    You can help it. You just choose not to. And besides I don't think you would want your girlfriend cheating on you.. Now would you?
     
  6. Kronnie

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    If i had a g/f there is no way i would wish her to be cheating with another in real life.
    In the same way i wouldnt cheat on a g/f.

    Flirting and such online i wouldnt have much of a problem with.

    You do need to tell your partner that you are easy meat for any female that offers herself to you, and that you ( iyo) can not help yourself.
    so at least she has the option of finding another partner that will not cheat on her, plus the fact if your not being careful sexualy wit htese other females, you could pass on an std or more to your other half.
     
  7. Puss_in_boots

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    This is a sex discussion forum, not a confessional.
     
  8. Kronnie

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    Ekkk me not goto confession for over 20 years yukkky...
    If i was into that , i think the priest would be dead by the time id finished confessing to him haha
     
  9. SexyScorp

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    Confession is very good for the soul
    I have often been used as a sexual
    confession box lol

    If you cheat....the chances are you
    will be found out.....or................

    Karma will serve you the same
    treatment!!
     
  10. Halogen

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    If you 'can't help' having sex with other women, you should break up with your gf. She doesn't deserve this.
     
  11. Kronnie

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    Im lucky i can only sexualy cheat on myself , and ill always forgive me for it in the morning :p

    my sins are of a criminal nature. from my past ....
     
  12. Bluesy

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    The first step to overcoming any problem is admitting that you have a problem, so, Gaddy, kudos to you for confessing. That took a lot of courage :) If you're ready to take the next step, there are groups that can help, and I would also recommend getting into counseling. You can get control over this issue, or you can let it continue to dominate you and wreak havoc with your life. At least think about joining an online support group and introducing yourself--that would be an excellent first step towards progress.

    I highly recommend SMART for healing from any sort of compulsive behavior issues: http://www.smartrecovery.org/

    If you prefer a 12 step approach (or think multiple support groups would be most beneficial for you at this time), you can join Sex Addicts Anonymous: http://www.saa-recovery.org/

    I do think this is something you should discuss with your gf, as difficult as that may be, because you're unwittingly exposing her to potential STDs, and that isn't fair to her. You don't need the extra guilt of discovering that you've passed something onto someone you care about (and you can contract certain STDs even if you use condoms religiously).

    Let us know how you're doing, Ok?
     
  13. Silent22

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    well its true its within our male genetics to spread the seed and reprocurate the world..

    but.... nothing in our genetics says that we are stupid and ignorant. You chose that part aha
     
  14. Barbwire

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    Who says this place isn't a confessional? Certainly not all the peeps that have come here to talk about bi-curiosity, cross dressing, shitty marital sex, or a multitude of other things.
     
  15. dunny

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    Why not finish it with your partner? I don't understand why you would remain with her yet carry on sleeping with others.
     
  16. gaddy

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    yes noted ma'am.

    by the way, i'm trying to change. :)
     
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    Good for you! :)
     
  18. Dreama

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    I'm glad that you've admitted that there is presently a problem. I think you should be truthful with your girl. Sex addiction is a big deal, and although she may choose not to be with you, she may stay with you if she loves you enough....Either way, she deserves the truth. Get help, let her know you're getting help.
     
  19. bosman

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    She should also know the truth because you could be exposing her to risks you are knowingly taking on: STDs. And when she sees her doctor about an STD...well, that is not a good way for her to find out about your activities...