I need to partially vent and partially seek advice. I am a very hypersexual hubbie. I don't think about sex all the time...perhaps 90 percent of the day. If not sex, something sexual or naughty. I have been married to my wife now 8 years and recently either I have become more sexual, or she is becoming less sexual. I can't really tell. More recently, certain avenues or fetishes have been introduced to me and it seems my want to experiment and being limited in my ability to do so is causing a strain in my sexual relationship with my wife. Now, I am not blaming anyone...I do know that my wife who suffers from PCOS has hormonal imbalances brought on by the disease that affects her libido. But something iside of me tells me, she just doesn't care and doesn't want to. Yes, I am 275 and 5'9" which makes me slightly over weight. I do know that physical appearence is a huge contributing factor in seduction... I have a long list of fetishes and things I would like to try...but it seems she is only interested in me, doggy style, once or twice a week. She won't let me pleasure her orally (which I love to do...and even if I get the chance, she refuses to move into any position other than on her back....) I am dying to be "queened." I know that getting a divorce for lack of sexual gratification is stupid...but this is getting to be a monthly argument that I am too horny and she can't keep up. I masturbate 3-5 times most every day and still lust for her any chance I get. I am incredibly frustrated and don't really know what to do anymore. I can't "Give up" and I can't cheat. Suggestions?