Husbands Looking at Other women

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  1. SDAVIS

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    What are your thoughts on husbands that look at women other than their wives? I'm talking about noticing attractive women while in the mall, in restaurants, traffic. Do you/your spouse consider that normal or 'unfair' and 'wrong'? I'm not talking about flirting, just noticing them, not talking about having your tongue hanging out and drooling, just talking about seeing and noticing? All points of view appreciated!!!
     
  2. igor

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    Pretty hard not to look and see other people in a mall. If one is not lusting over them, what's the harm?
     
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    I agree with you brother! The problem is that I was once overboard with it I guess, and now I can;t even turn my head for fear there will be a cute lady in the direction I turn, and the BAM! She is pissed off for the rest fo the night or even weekend!
     
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    We are only human SDAVIS and most of us cannot help but look admiringly at the attractive members of the opposite sex. Looking does not necessarily mean we want to have sex with them. I certainly don't take issue with just looking. From reading some of your other posts however, it seems that you and you wife have some other deep-seated issues that really need working out. I hope you and your wife can sit down and have a long talk sometime.
     
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    Well, just looking is fine, to an extent. But I would have a problem w/ it if my husband always did it when we were together. They should have more self consciousness about themselves. Us wives/gf are always looking at our hubby/bf face while eating or talking. And when we see their eyes divert away, and their eyes go up and down, it is usually to look at a woman. It gets old after a while. If men are going to look, do it when you're not w/ your SO.

    Do it at work, or w/ your guy friends. I don't care how natural it is. It gets old when it happens every time you go out together.
     
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    Hubby and I both do our share of looking. It's priceless when I notice them before he does, and point them out to him. LOL.
     
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    Exactly.Same here.However, I don't expect him to be hopelessly drooling,but we ARE human.Looking is fine by me.
     
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    Oh I agree wholeheartedly. It's not a good idea for him to lose concentration in the middle of a conversation because he's drooling over someone else.
     
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    Right after my wife and I got married, I was worried about looking at other women. Because I didn't want to hurt my wife. Then one day, I caught her checking out a guy and teased her about it a little. That brought up the topic so we could find out what we thought about it.
    So, we talked; and agreed, just looking is fine. I know she is going to check out other guys from time to time, and she knows I will check out other women from time to time. No big deal.
    Plus, sometimes the 'voyuersitic' attitude spices up the sex life ;)
     
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    Very interesting topic....Looking, yes, we do it. And we openly talk about it. And sometimes, I notice the hot chick first. But we have been together a long time and know exactly where we stand on the issue. From time to time we flirt with other individuals (funny, I only do this if he's with me). It seems more like a friendship in that respect. My husband and I have fun scoping at the beach. "Honey- 2 o'clock....hot goth chick....check her out." But then, I've heard that I am more relaxed company than most women. Maybe this is because I only have 1 friend that's a girl. I don't know. Maybe it's the years of trust I have in my marriage. For whatever reason, it doesn't bother me, or him, and actually has become a fun topic around here. And personally, I think it's healthy for a man to hear that he is still attractive to the opposite sex (he's attractive to both sexes, but that I'll save for a different thread!). Just my thoughts, which, as usual, appear to be different than other women's.
     
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    We always check out hot girls and guys when we're out.

    He'll say something like, "Honey, there's a good 3-some partner.. ;) - what do ya' think?" - and I'll give my honest opinion (too business-y, or too scruffy, ...or HELL YEAH - HE'S HOT!) :LOL

    I'll see a sexy-dessed young chick, and point her out to Thorn. I give him a while to process all his naughty thoughts concerning her.
    Then we laugh.

    But, SDAVIS, like PussInBoots noted, by some of your other posts, there seems to be some relationship problems that you and your wife are dealing with right now... so maybe a little more discretion when looking - until things get a bit more solid at home. Those of us who enjoy looking freely are also enjoying a trusting relationship with our partners.
     
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    My wife shows me them. It's a natural thing to look at something nice...
     
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    Thanks to everyone. Rose, you are right, all this is somehow related. I think she uses this entire harmless issue to try to "bring me down to her level of guilt" regarding the other issues. She says she knows I'm not going to mess with the women, but is offended that I look. I TRY MY BEST not to look, but I am a people person and notice all types of people when I am out. Hell, I notice the guys who are poorly dressed, the guys with bad haircuts, the large women, the ugly women, and of course, the attractive ones too, but they are just some of them. I know it sounds lame, but I am intrigued by people and how they choose to go out in public. Thanks again for all the feedback.
     
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    I always love watching people looking at my wife. When she is out in a store she doesn't pay attention to anything other than what's on clearance. So she never knows what's going on. I wear sunglasses most of the time so I can really watch people. Personally I don't make to much of an effort to look at other women. I am quite happy with life right now so really no reason.
     
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    I don't mind Master looking. It is normal to look, it's not like he is going to take her home and fuck her. If anything it will make him more horny for me and we get home and go at it for 5 hours straight hehe. We offten joke about it too when were out, I have no problems with it. Master does say I get guys looking at me but I never pay attention to it.

    There was this one time at the mall. I just got this shirt, well I went to put it on and I walked into the video store were Master was, he eyes almost popped out and from what he said I looked so hot, it turned him on more and he couldn't wait til we got home, and he was all over me til we got home. We was walking around and he says the guy behind the counter is staring like crazy, I didn't see. When we got home it didn't take long for him to get the shirt off of me hehe.
     
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    Yeah she never minds if I look. We were at a Bar and she even asked me, what about her? LOL. She knows I,m going home with her and I only want her. Looking is only normal. Even if she looks. Wouldn,t bother me a bit. Guys are always Looking at her. Doesn,t bother me any. Bothers me less that she doesn,t see it half the time. LOL

     
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    I sometimes notice other women, but I always hide it from my wife and pretend that I am not looking if I am with her when I notice someone. It used to bother me that I noticed anyone, however, I started to "cut myself some slack", realized that I am a man and that, from time to time I WILL notice - I just don't beat myself up about it anymore and I also consider my wife's feelings by hiding it if I notice. By the way, my wife does not know that I am on this web page, reading and responding to these postings. I have just started to do things like this to sort of "give vent to my sexuality more than I had been", however, I limit it to things like this, occasionally looking at pornography on the Internet and, when I am good and horny, I go in to my wife and make love with her. Yeah, sometimes I wonder what it would be like to make love to another woman (like the beautiful "puss in boots" for example ;>) but it will remain only wondering, only a "guilty fantasy". That's just me, just who I am right now in life. If others of you want to do otherwise, that has to be up to you.
     
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    You sound like you are "my hubby". Hmm, guess I better keep an eye on you :lol I would love to find out if he was on here, and trying to hide it from me :nerv
     
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    Off Topic: All I can say is the fine state of Virginia is highly represented on this wonderful sexual forum!!
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    I think as long as you don't hide it, its ok...try to catch a glimpse then have a conversation with your spouse about it...thats what I do with my gf...we do the same for any guy.