Husband's Increased Satiation to Reduce Temptation

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Logger, Oct 17, 2005.

  1. Logger

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 6, 2003
    Messages:
    1,214
    Likes Received:
    45
    Gender:
    Male
    Temptation can be a co-worker Lady asking for a ride home, or a lady in line at a dollar store, or super market, etc.

    I am intersted in being faithful to my wife, because I am interested in her being true to me. Avoiding diseases, embarrassment to friend/neighbors, etc.

    So what I have found, is that having some porn images in the process of love making is helpful for me to be more satiated, after making love. Without porn images, I notice that I am less satiated.

    Porn images are a challenge for me, as my wife is sensitive to the issues, on occasion. But I feel that enjoyment of porn, during love making to my wife, it is not simply for my personal gratification, but is for the Loving purpose of being faithful to my wife. Since I am more satiated by porn during Love making, and less tempted to stray.

    So there is a time period, for which focusing on the porn, and pumping seems to work optimally for me. I am not really recommending husbands follow my example. I start this thread for others to post to show me that there is some other way to be more satiated, that jacking off to porn during the Love making sequence with my wife.

    This is not to say that I am going to totally overlook my wife's wishes, feelings or moods. I have established a habit, that whenever W raises the least objection, I shut off the TV. I don't fuss or cry or argue. I just go back to massaging her large muscles, and learning her acupressure points. But I am feeling that the porn is worth the risk, or eventuallity, of an occcasional rejection and complaint from W. If W wants to negotiate the issue, I will listen, but so far, she is satisfied the I cut off the Porn at her slightestr objection.

    Ideas for better methods of increased satiation?
     
  2. Logger

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 6, 2003
    Messages:
    1,214
    Likes Received:
    45
    Gender:
    Male
    WIFE SOMETIMES RESISTS TAKING A BREAK.

    In order for me to get fully satiated with both porn and dry humping, I find it is a nice sequence to stimulate with my wife, then trun to porn for some 5 to 30 minutes. So the problem was, that my wife was massaging my balls and root, while I was masturbating, and she was coaxing me to climax. But I had not gotten to view any porn yet. I kept going and climaxed, but I did not feel fully satisfied.

    So Last Night, I just got my wife into a comforable position, after we has stimulated for a while. I let her settle into a comforable positon, with her face not toward the TV. and I got out my 7-Inch portable, and loaded it up. I put it on the floor, and pumped for a while to the images. Then I went back with my wife and took up foreplay again, and ended with a nice dry hump.

    I am working out the logistics of jacking off to porn, while on a break from foreplay from wife. What was nice one time, was I was beating off to porn, with my ass into my wife's ass, and feeling the pulsing of my pounding.

    I cut off the DVD, after a short time, as I did not want to hear any criticism from W. Maybe I should just keep going with the DVD, until she says something, or I am ready for some live sex.

    I have enjoyed masturbating to porn some hours aftter having live sex. So maybe using porn during a break in foreplay migfht give the smae level of satiation, as after Live sex and porn masturbation.

    I am not claiming to be normal, or even representative of any large group of male sex drives. I am just trying to be faithful to my wife, by finding ways to increase satiation.

    After clmaxing from dry humping my wife, I raised up on my knees, and pumped out the last of my jizz onto her trimmed, silky, short pussy hairs. My vison of Love is saving up my climax for my wife, and then squeezing out the last of my Jizz onto her thighs and stomach. The more jizz I squirt on her crotch, the more I am building her love and favor.

    Ideas?
     
  3. deeperlover1978

    deeperlover1978 New Member

    Joined:
    May 1, 2004
    Messages:
    303
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    florida
    Well.. heres the thing about porn. Just my opinion. Porn is ok but if you get to the point where you dependent on it, it can be a problem. What happens is say for example you watch the porn and you get turned on and do your thing.. great. But after time the porn that turned you on in the begining doesnt seem to do it for you anymore. You become numb to it. So you find somethign maybe more taboo or such.. get turned on.. but after some time get numb to that too. My suggestion is to get away from the porn and just focus on yoru relationship with your wife, not just your sexual relationship but relationship in general like a vacation or something like that. Eventually talk about fantasy and ideas that woudl turn you on and have her involved in them like roleplaying or dressing up, etc. try that and see how that goes.
     
  4. Logger

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 6, 2003
    Messages:
    1,214
    Likes Received:
    45
    Gender:
    Male
    Dear Deeper lover,

    You are correct to point out some of the risks and disadvantages of porn.

    I feel that by using porn with my wife, and not really secretly, but in addition to her, not as a substitute for my wife. I use Porn as part of my foreplay with my wife.

    Still working out the details.

    My wife is not real uptight about Porn, herself. My wife is not jealous of women in the porn. My wife is not threatened by porn, herself.

    My wife's objection to porn is that she is trying to live up th her right wing church ideals. I should give my wife teh suggestion of keeping the porn secret, and my masturbating with her. That should be simple, "Our marital bedroom is priavate, and I don't discuss our adventures."

    Ideas?