My husband cheated on me after we were engaged but I didn't find out until years later after we were married.We have been married for 19 years, I still feel hurt and have feelings of resentment, I can't get over it and it's destroying me inside. I don't think he has physically cheated since but he does do a lot of suspisous things. He had an account on adult friendfinder, he flirts with women on paltalk.com and tells them how sexy they are, he had a secret po box, he loves to watch porn (I guess all guys do) he called women to book a massage, and he likes to wear speedos when we go to the beach, I don't find it to be a turn on at all, and now he tells me recently he would like to give a man oral sex so what does that make him? bi? I don't know I'm thoroughly confused and hurt and generally just fed up. What would you all do? I would a guys opinion too so this question is for guys and girls I guess.