Husband and i want to add another man

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  1. Hot Annika

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    First post here. I've been wanting to explore my sexuality and gave more experiences in life. I married young and never had my carefree days (not that I'd have been all that wild anyway). Having a threesome always appealed to me and seems so progressive and edgy, therefore not for me. I want to force myself out of my comfort zone so I can break the cycle of monotony and disappointment in my own shyness. Anyway, my wonderful husband has been very supportive and has agreed to bring another man into our bed.

    I'm beyond excited at the thought of two men focused on me. However, we're debating using a friend or stranger. I go back and forth but my husband is set on a stranger. We've been talking to a guy from a site so its decision time. Any thoughts from people who've done this?

    On a side note, the guy from online has sent us nude pictures and is very well hung. His size doesn't matter much to me but I'm worried it'll make my husband insecure. He actually likes the idea of finding a well endowed male for me but I think maybe he's seen one too many pornos. Am I overthinking things?
     
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    Well if he backs out, let me the first here to volunteer.
     
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    I font think it can be prescriptive. It may work with a stranger, it may work with a friend; it may not work with a stranger it may not work with a friend!!!
    Your hubby thinks a stranger is preferable so maybe you should look in that direction to start with.
    I know I'd like to be that "stranger" :)
     
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    Let your man decide. You'll always have veto power, anyway.

    In my experience, with a stranger it's less awkward.
     
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    compatibility is important, you should have the final say
     
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    a stranger is a LOT LESS AWKWARD :confused:
     
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  7. Hot Annika

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    Very good point
     
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    You are a very attractive woman, I'm sure guys would line up. I suggest you get your hubby to be real honest about his feelings
    about having Mr. Horse cock fuck you. Don't screw up up marriage just to get off. If he's going get head tripped out over it don't do it.

    If he's confident in your relationship I would think he'll be good with it. Best of luck

    And welcome to the site
     
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    What an incredible idea. Some very good advice given above. Hope you find the right way forward. Keep us posted, I'm sure we'd love to hear or see how you get on!
     
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    My wf says it's totally hot to have two men explore your body at the same time. It's better to let your hubby plan it out the first time, you can choose who it's gonna be from next time (like my wife does).
     
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    Good luck with everything. It's a wonderful time. Stranger is probably easier for a first MFM.
    Then as you and your husband get more into it if you decide to continue. Working your way up to a friend is not a bad option.
     
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    Stranger ......
    Less problems, although it could work well with a friend, but not yet.
    Plan a trip somewhere out of town, place an ad in advance, or go to a social place.
    I would be the stranger ;).
     
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    If it's a stranger, make sure you practice safe sex. He may seem safe and sane, but really, you dont know where he's been.

    xx
     
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    Good luck in this. We've done it a lot. The first time was really stressful for both of us but afterward we agreed that we had over-thought the whole thing. One of our early lovers had a really big dick. I was unsure of how I would feel about that. I knew she would enjoy it. Fortunately the only feeling I experienced was pride. But it could have gone any direction. I just didn't know until I was in the situation.
    Talk talk talk and then do.
     
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    I have to agree with others. A stranger would be less awkward, and letting your husband decide who it will be is a great way to start off. Keep us posted on how it goes!
     
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    Pick a neutral place to meet and if the conversation goes well, head for an hotel so you remain anonymous. Pick a safe word where/ if someone gets uncomfortable.

    Good luck
     
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    Stranger, but once you get the taste of a huge dick you might need it all the time, then hubby might start to worry.
     
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    Thank you all for the wonderful advice! I really appreciate the interest in helping me. I'm the epitome of the over analyzer so my husband and I have spoken many times about this. Our boundaries and wants. So I'm confident that husband is comfortable with this, but you never know about the emotional impact until it's happening. I just don't want fear of the unknown to prevent something that could be great for us. Anyway, if it sucks, well stop and won't do it again!

    You all sold me on choosing a stranger. We had been speaking to a couple of guys online to see what's out there and have agreed to meet a guy this weekend. My nerves are through the roof already. We're going into to with the expectation of having some drinks and going home. I don't want the pressure of promised sex. I'd love for it to happen but this isn't something to rush into. I've been asked the question several times now so let me say it here. A condom is a must. There's no exceptions there. Thanks everyone!
     
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    Have fun! I'd love to get on that short list :)
     
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    Hi, First of all I want to compliment you on your bravery and openness to new experiences. You can't help the way your mind works, but keep pushing yourself. I have been the outside man for dozens of couples, starting when I was a teenager. We have almost all had wonderful times. I've written you a private message about all this.
     
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