Wasn't sure where to post this so I ended up on this forum and registered. Anyway, my story is as follows: I've lost my virginity only about 6 months ago. And I'm a 28 years old male. Yeah I know it's late, I should have fucked earlier bla bla bla well I guess I'm just a late bloomer. Well the thing is, I never really looked for a relationship. I'm not a loner though: I enjoy seeing my friends, doing sports and stuff like that but I simply am not ready for a relationship. Not ready at all. It might come later, but not now. So my friends once adviced me to at least try a relationship before dismissing it. To at least know if I'm really not ready for it. So I did. Met a nice girl who I thought was beautiful and nice. We were together for about 1 month and yeah well I finally lost my virginity. It was starting to piss me off being a virgin I gotta admit. For a dude, being virgin at my age automatically makes you a loser in society's eyes even if I find that idea ridiculous. But I just felt that it wasn't working out. The sex was good and all, but I really didn't feel the need to see her more. It even bothered me to see her on some days. I wasn't in love. So we broke up. And I don't miss the relationship part. But I'm not gonna lie: I do miss the sex sometimes. It's not like I'm frustrated and wanna hump every girl I see, but well I do miss it sometimes. Just purely the physical part. Not the emotional one. I'm not sure how to handle this. Yes I know you can play with mrs Right Hand but it's not the same. For starters, I'm left handed (ololol Im funneh) secondly, it just doesn't feel the same than fucking a woman. I can hear you say "go pluck some girl in some dancing and do her!" Yeah. No. I'm really not that type of person. I'm not a player at all. I'm also not the type of person to lie to a girl and tell her that I love her and want a relationship with her just so I can bang her and dump her afterwards. I respect women more than that. "friends with benefits"? Would be great. Except it's not like you can get one of those as easily as going to the grocery store and buying an apple. I mean seriously, how do you even start looking for a FWB? You just walk up to a girl and say "hey, I think you're hot. Wanna be my fuckbuddy?" Plus, I'm horribly shy around women. I'm not bad looking but I'm cripplingly shy around women. A very good female friend of mine said something that made me think. She said "dude, you're a good looking guy, you have those big beautiful blue eyes, have an atheltic physique and your looks would work with you, but you really lack self-confidence and that makes it very hard" And I think she's right. I'm not just shy. I lack self confidence. It probably is one of those results that come from having my parents divorced at 7 years of age (didn't have a miserable childhood though, but the divorce hit me very hard for a bunch of years) but the fact is: I lack self confidence, especially around women. And I'm shy. I also don't have a lot of sexual experience. I fucked my ex twice. That's all so I'm probably still a complete, unconfident newb when it comes to that. I don't know what to do. One part of me doesn't want to get a relationship. One part of me doesn't wanna feed bullshit to a girl just so I can bang her. The other part reminds me I'm a human and that I want to have sex sometimes. Just purely for the lust and physical pleasure. And another problem is that I don't know anything about women. I can't pick up the signals they give, I'm too inexperienced for that. I know this is a really bizarre question and go ahead, laugh with me if you want. it's not like I give a shit. But I'm kinda in an annoying situation and I don't really know what to do. Anyone recognizes this?