Hubby only wants anal sex

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    buzzzzzz12 New Member

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    For the past 12 months my husband (Greek born) insists on anal sex only and has not penetrated my vagina with his penis during this time. He does stimulate my clit during anal sex with his fingers. Most nights when we get into bed he'll get out the tube of lube and pull off my panties and he'll lube me up with his fingers until he's ready to enter me. If I say no from time to time he gets very moody with me and insists on a blow job instead then tells me I better not knock him back the next night. I love him very much and do enjoy anal but I prefer vaginal sex. He has also been purchasing a lot of anal based porn dvd's which are very hard core anal. He tells me he hates vaginal sex and now prefers anal only. Although he's 7 1/2 inches and thick, I am used to his size and that is no longer an issue as it was when we first started anal sex. I just wish he'd get over his anal fettish
     
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    Eek! This sounds like serious bully behavior. I don't have any advice other than to just put your foot down and say "vag sex, or nothing." I'm sorry :(
     
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    I have to agree with Halogen. Every once in a while, ok. But its not fair that you have to give up what you want all together.
     
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    I enjoy anal sex as well, it feels really good to me and she likes it to a extent but it is mostly for my enjoyment.

    I also feel in control when I am having anal sex, dominating

    I believe this is why he is doing this as well, he likes the feeling of being dominate, but where me and him differ, is that I am considerate of my partners feelings

    I sounds to me that he is only using you, pretend sub and dom play is fine but when it becomes the norm it becomes very dangerous and must be stopped.

    You need to explain to him that it is your chose not his, weither or not you have anal sex

    this needs to become very clear to him, If you don't do this, then I am afraid for you

    Does he have a temper
     
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    It's a Greek thing.
    But people marry because we love one another.
    So we should satisfy each other often.

    Hiker
     
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    Not Tonite Honey Very Nicely
     
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    How can that dude not like vaginal sex maybe he's gay or something lol im just kidding. Seriously tho he needs to respect your feelings I would never force my girl to do something she doesn't want to do...
     
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    I love my husband very much, I adore anal sex. There is no abuse in my eyes. I grew up to respect my husband's wishes and nobody is getting hurt or threatened. The only problem is that I'm missing vaginal sex.

    No need to yell.
     
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    In that case get a dildo/vibrator
    or
    ask for vaginal sex
     
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    People responding to your thread are doing so because they are concerned and trying to help you. If you are going take offense to suggestions of help then why bother asking for it in the first place? I understand that you love your husband but you need to understand that him hating vaginal sex is not normal. Him insisting on you giving him anal sex all the time against your will is not normal.
     
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    You may well respect his wishes, but does he (or even YOU for that matter) even consider yours? If you miss vaginal sex, then ask him for it. Why should you provide him with what he wants if he wont provide you with what you want?

    In other words, and not to be rude...but get some balls! lol :) as long as he isnt violent or anything of course :S
     
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    alternatively, get a dildo or vibrator. Alternatively to that, ask him if you can create a mould of his cock? Then you are at least getting the closest possible thing to your husbands penis inside you.
     
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    Loving is giving and receiving, he is doing all the receiving at the moment, and that isn't fair on you.

    He says you had better not knock him back the next night... or what? What happens when you ask for vaginal sex?
     
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    Hi,

    If this is a genuine post i would say its sexual abuse and you need help.

    What he is doing is dominating you. Anal sex is domination. Forcing you to give him a BJ because you don't want to offer anal sex is also dominating - if you cant see this you need to wake up!.

    If you are into being dominated and like this kind of sex then that's your choice. If it's part of a varity of different love making methods that you both enjoy thats fair enough also, "variety is the spice of life" as they say but, if in this case it's a one way street and you are not getting what you want 50% of the time, or at least for some of it, (if you are the obliging type) then you need to do something about it.

    Based on the fact that you post along the lines of "he lubes me up and if i dont agree" that's a case of taking what he wants, without asking or considering your feelings which is very wrong - next step will be him just raping you, if he's not done that already?.

    This post wont be what you want to hear either but you are a victim here but dont know it. Constant anal sex with nothing else is an unhealthy obsession and he needs physiological support with issue - meanwhile you are playing a very dangerous game continuing to feed this unhealthy obsessive desire of his.

    I wonder if he would like it if every night at bedtime you just lubed his arse up regardless and gave it him with a nice thick 7 inch dildo until you had had enough? - Do see where im comming from here?
     
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    I really don't have anything to add regarding your husband's desire for anal sex all the time, BUT, I think that the fact you pointed out he is Greek and Hiker's statement, "It's a Greek thing." is as bad as saying Mexicans are lazy, Polish people are stupid, and Irish people drink too much. I don't understand why you are using a stereotype to justify his behavior.
     
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    Denial is what I think :D...I was just trying to say he should be considerate of your feelings geez.:eyes
     
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    Its not a Greek thing

    Its a control thing


    How can you respect someone who doesnt respect you


    Uuugghhh.....

    And yeah...why ask if you are gonna be offended!
     
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    That's great that you like anal sex, but when you say things like this:


    That isn't what a normal husband does, whether he's greek or irish, german, american, french, whatever. The part about loving anal sex isn't what's wrong here - it's the part where he tells you you'd "better not knock him back" - that's a threat. No husband, no matter what nationality, should force his wife to do things she doesn't want to do.
     
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    Local boy it's a Greek thing.
     
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    :lol
     
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