So I haves lived in a sexless relationship/marriage for over 3 years now. By this I mean 12 times or less a year which is what phychologist have defined it as. At this stage I have seeked out outside help, read all I could, bought all I could, communicated until I was blue in the face and have taken health into consideration. All those are are things people in the past bombard me with when I ask for advice or personal experiences so I tried them all with no success. So basically I've learned to accept this as best as possible I've even attempted talking about having no sexual relationship at all. But that just led to her being upset and excuses and saying she'll try and things get better for a week then back to stone cold and me being more upset. I guess my question is how should I go about this and how do I say it's either got to get better or I don't want a sexual relationship at all?